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  Santa Cruz Parent Santa Cruz County

October 3, 2019
October

Jack o'lanterns and the Irish Connection

Fake spider webs are a bad idea

Ask Nicole: When Saying Good-bye is Hard for Babies ...

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(0 A 1.1 September 2019) pumpkin-boy-wheelbarrow.jpgOctober is pumpkins, apple pies, leaves to mow and leave on the grass, brisk hikes in the redwoods, seaglass to collect along the beaches, jackets to get out, family evenings by the fire, jack o' lanterns to carve, costumes to create and ghost stories to tell. We have a jack o' lantern story for you today!

Children are creative! They so easily step into pretend roles inspired by the stories we read, tv and movies we select. Involve them in creating costumes all month long. Enter into their imaginary games. It's fun!

We all do our best to act responsibly for our environment. I see wonderful awareness and activity in Santa Cruz County. One of my actions stems from my joy in bird watching. I contribute to their well-being, so today I bring you a cautionary story about a common, harmful Halloween decoration.

Nicole talks about the challenges in saying "Goodbye." I've always found goodbyes bittersweet, for varying reasons. You too? I'm okay once I get on the road, or back at my routine if I'm the one not traveling. Imagine how difficult it is for babies who are just catching on to goodbyes and reunions!

Please share our newsletter with new friends so they won't miss a few tidbits of wisdom from our author contributors, and as always our many fun events!

Have a wonderful weekend with family and friends!  Parmalee

 

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  Jack o'lanterns and the Irish Connection

(0 A September 2019) jack-olantern-woods-scary.jpgThe term "jack-o'-lantern" was first applied to people, not pumpkins. As far back as 1663, the term meant a man with a lantern, or a night watchman. Just a decade or so later, it began to be used to refer to the mysterious lights sometimes seen at night over bogs, swamps, and marshes.

These ghost lights-variously called  jack-o'-lanterns, hinkypunks, hobby lanterns, corpse candles, fairy lights, will-o'-the-wisps, and fool's fire-are created when gases from decomposing plant matter ignite as they come into contact with electricity or heat or as they oxidize. For centuries before this scientific explanation was known, people told stories to explain the mysterious lights. In Ireland, dating as far back as the 1500s, those stories often revolved around a guy named Jack.

LEGEND HAS IT... read the rest of the story>>>

 

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  Fake spider webs are a bad idea

Here's a real American horror story ... for birds.

Christian Cotroneo

What a tangled web we weave when we celebrate Halloween.

From smoke machines to plastic pumpkins, many of those spooky October props can be a nightmare for the environment.

But for birds, there may be no greater plague than those fake spider webs strewn willy-nilly outside homes.

(0 A 1.1 October) screech-owl-rescued-from-webbing.jpgThose spooky gooky strands gumming up the trees have long been the stuff of nightmares, not just for birds but any small animals not strong enough to break free from their grasp.

This is the time of year that rehabilitators receive numerous animals caught in these decorations, from songbirds to chipmunks and everything in between.

The webbing is just another hazardous obstacle for birds, especially during the migration period - which happens to be in full glorious flight right now. And those obstacles - from glue traps to brightly lit windows to garden netting - are really piling up. Mother Nature Network>>>

Photo: This little screech owl was rescued from Halloween fake spider webbing.

 

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  Ask Nicole: When Saying Good-bye is Hard for Babies ...

... (and Parents)

Nicole M. Young, MSW

You wouldn't know it now, but my daughter cried constantly when she was a baby. First, she had colic. Then she cried whenever I was out of her sight. This made it extremely hard to drop her off at child care, and I often ended up crying just as much as my daughter. Our wise child care provider suggested I give my daughter something that smelled like me when saying good-bye, so she could be reminded of me throughout the day. For many months, I packed the nightshirt I'd worn the night before into the diaper bag each morning, then gave it to my daughter as I kissed her good-bye. It helped, and it became a special part of our good-bye routine that my daughter came to depend upon. After awhile, it didn't matter if I'd worn the shirt - any soft, white T-shirt symbolized comfort and security. I'll always be grateful for that simple tip that got us through many teary good-byes.

(0 A 1.1 October) goodbye.jpgDear Nicole, My wife and I recently adopted our first baby. We're both excited, nervous, and clueless. Our daughter is 8-months old and usually easy-going, but lately she gets upset and cries when I drop her off at child care. It's a terrible feeling to leave her when she's crying and reaching out for me. Our child care provider says she's fine once I leave, but should I be worried?   Tessa

Dear Tessa, Great question! It's common for babies to go through a phase where they become upset and cry during separations. This is often called "separation anxiety" and is usually temporary. It can start as early as 4-months old, peak around 1-year old, then start to fade as children learn that their parents exist even if they can't see them and that they will return after a separation. Here are some tips to try:

Spend quality time together. This is the first positive parenting strategy to use in any situation, with any child, at every stage of life. Talk, read, sing, make eye contact, hold, cuddle, and play with your baby, even if it's only for a few minutes at a time. This kind of brief, frequent quality time builds warm, loving relationships and will help your baby feel safe and secure.

Create a good-bye routine. Predictable routines help children feel safe and teaches them to prepare for separations. For example:

  • Tell your baby when it's almost time to say good-bye - "Mommy [or Daddy] needs to leave in 5 minutes."
  • Do something special as you say good-bye - e.g. blow kisses, rub noses, sing a song, or hug.
  • As you say your final good-bye, give your baby a "transitional object," such as a toy, blanket, or other item from home that reminds them of you while you're apart.

Respond calmly if your baby gets upset. Babies often react to their parents' emotions, even if they don't understand or speak words. Try to stay calm and relaxed as you say good-bye and reassure your child that you'll be back. It might not stop the crying, but can help prevent it from escalating.

Create a routine for reconnecting. Babies often cry, turn away, or avoid their parents when they return, too. If this happens, it's not a sign of rejection. Babies may need time to adjust to seeing their parents after being apart. Stay close by and talk in a calm, caring voice so she knows you're there, even if she doesn't want to look at you or be held. Watch her face and body for signs she's ready to be picked up or hugged.

Take care of yourself. Separating from and reconnecting with children (especially crying babies) can be an emotional roller coaster for parents. Give yourself time and permission to feel your emotions, then practice self-care. Take a walk, listen to music, get a cup of coffee or tea, talk to someone, take deep breaths - whatever will help you feel calm and ready to face the day.

FINAL THOUGHTS: Saying good-bye is hard for many children and parents, no matter how old they are. Developing routines for separating and reconnecting helps children learn how to handle their feelings about saying good-bye, which helps prepare them to cope with changes and transitions throughout life.

This monthly column provides tips for anyone who's helping raise children, based on the world-renowned Triple P - Positive Parenting Program, available to families in Santa Cruz County. If you have a question or idea for a future column, please email me at triplep@first5scc.org.

Nicole Young is the mother of two children, ages 15 and 19, who also manages Santa Cruz County's Triple P - Positive Parenting Program, the world's leading positive parenting program. Scientifically proven, Triple P is made available locally by First 5 Santa Cruz County, the Santa Cruz County Health Services Agency (Mental Health Services Act) and the Santa Cruz County Human Services Department. To find a Triple P parenting class or practitioner, visit http://triplep.first5scc.org, or contact First 5 Santa Cruz County at 465-2217 or triplep@first5scc.org.

 
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Mission Hill Middle School PTA, Talk: Parent-Teen Control Battles 10/5

 

Gateway School K-8, School Day Tour, 10/8

 

Mount Madonna School Pre-K-12, Open House 10/20

Pumpkin Farms

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Halloween Events

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Native Animal Rescue of Santa Cruz County

WE NEED ACORNS

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to feed our hungry population of young wild animals.

 

1855 17th Ave. Santa Cruz

8am-8pm

All 7 days!

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Rescue!

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Renaissance Faire Weekends
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Northern California Renaissance Faire
Date: Every Su and Sa (Sep 14-Oct 20) from 10:00am to 6:00pm
Details: Pageantry, Revelry, Crafts and Romance
City: Hollister view all details >>
     
Anime Club
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Library Watsonville
Date: The 1st Tues of every month from 4:00pm to 5:30pm
Ages: 6-12 grades
Details: Join our Anime Club!
City: Watsonville Phone: 831-768-3400 view all details >>
     
Parent/Teen Control Battles - Neil Brown, LCSW
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  Parent/Teen Control Battles - Neil Brown, LCSW
Mission Hill PTA
Date: 10/05/2019 from 10:30am to 11:00am
Details: Neil will help parents/caregivers identify, understand, and work to resolve battles with their teens, and introduce tools to bui
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
Lobster Feed Fundraiser
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Mountain Parks Foundation
Date: 10/10/2019 from 4:30pm to 8:30pm
Details: Imagine! Eating lobsters under the redwoods in support of State Parks!
City: Felton Phone: 831.335.3174 view all details >>
     
Born to Explore: Namibia: Land of the Cheetah
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Native Animal Rescue
Date: 10/08/2019 from 7:00pm to 9:00pm
Details: Come discover Namibia, the cheetah capital of the world.
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
Arboretum Garden Free Day
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Arboretum at UC Santa Cruz
Date: The 1st Tues of every month from 9:00am to 5:00pm
Details: A tranquil place to see plants from around the world plus quail, bunnies...
City: Santa Cruz Phone: 831-502-2998 view all details >>
     
First Friday: The Natural History of Natural Disasters
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Santa Cruz Museum of Natural History
Date: 10/04/2019 from 5:00pm to 7:00pm
Ages: All
Details: Explore earthquakes, sea level rise, wildfires, and emergency response with local experts.
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 420-6115 view all details >>
     
2nd Annual Brewgrass Festival
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Roaring Camp
Date: 10/05/2019 from 11:30am to 7:30pm
Details: Brewglass & Bluegrass + activities for kids!
City: Felton view all details >>
     
Archeology Day
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State Park Mission
Date: 10/05/2019 from 12:00pm to 4:00pm
Details: Follow the archeological process from the dig to the display, and participate in hands-on activities
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 425-5849 view all details >>
     
Ohlone Plant Use
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State Park Big Basin
Date: 11/09/2019 from 10:30am to 1:30pm
Ages: All
Details: How would you make dinner if you lived in Big Basin 500 years ago?
City: Boulder Creek Phone: (831) 338-8883 view all details >>
     
October is...
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Docent-Led Farm Tour
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UCSC Farm
Date: The 1st Su of every month (Apr 7-Nov 3) from 2:00pm to 3:30pm
Details: Thriving examples of organic agriculture and tour horticulture on both a hand-worked garden scale and medium-sized, tractor-work
City: Santa Cruz Phone: Phone (831) 459-3240 view all details >>
     
Haunted HouseActing Classes
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Louden Nelson Center
Date: Every Wed, Fri and Sa (Oct 2-Oct 26)
Ages: All ages welcome
Details: Create masks, hang with zombies and take your costumes out on a pre-Halloween test ride. Tons of fun for the whole family.
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
Piggie Pie: The Musical Play
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Library Aptos
Date: 10/05/2019 from 10:30am to 11:00am
Ages: All ages
Details: Come cheer on our little plump piggies as they escape the hungry witch! She wants to put them in her favorite recipe, piggie pie
City: Aptos view all details >>
     
Santa Cruz Music Festival
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Santa Cruz Music Festival
Date: Every day (Oct 19-Oct 20)
Details: The Santa Cruz Music Festival is a first-of-its-kind event in Santa Cruz, delivering two days of curated, music-focused programm
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
Open Streets Santa Cruz
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Open Streets Santa Cruz County and Bike Santa Cruz County
Date: 10/12/2019 from 9:00am to 2:00pm
Details: Join us as we walk, play, bike and dance in the streets on a day free from car traffic
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
Thomas and Percy's Halloween Party
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Roaring Camp
Date: Every Su and Sa (Oct 12-Oct 27)
Details: Dress up for Halloween with favorites Thomas and Percy, for a 20 minute train ride, entertainment, and fun filled activities
City: Felton view all details >>
     
Traditional Acorn Processing from Tree to Table
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Santa Cruz Museum of Natural History
Date: 10/13/2019 from 10:00am to 2:00pm
Ages: 8+
Details: Traditional Acorn Processing from Tree to Table
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
     
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