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October 26, 2017
Wisdom of the Ancients

Classic Halloween Events for the Children

Suki: Parenting to Avoid Regret

Quotes fromThe Parent's Tao Te Ching

Fun Events!
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  Wisdom of the Ancients

(0 Oct 2017) Halloween_FC_Best.jpgHave a fun and safe Halloween! I've never seen so many Halloween events all over the county.  Amazing!

It doesn't surprise me that wisdom which existed in ancient cultures is as true today as ever.  I hope you enjoy a few quotes from The Tao Te Ching for Parents.

Suki opines on a subject that all of us parents have experienced, regrets and moving on.  Take heart!

Please recommend our newsletter to new friends so they won't miss a few tidbits of wisdom from our author contributors, and as always the many fun events! Check the online calendar.

Enjoy a fun weekend with family!  Parmalee

Photo: Fern Creek Garden Railroad, located at 419 Ocean View Ave, Santa Cruz, is getting ready for you!

 

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  Classic Halloween Events for the Children

Creatures of the Night Invade Fern Creek Garden Railroad!

Many years in the making is the Fern Creek Western Garden Railroad whose many tracks surround Eric Child's home run by Eric Child. His teenage apprentice engineers discovered Eric at the annual MAH train show when they were pre-teens. They have been indefatigable builders of an amazing display of model trains. Fern Creek will be putting on their usual extravaganza with lights, fog machines, jumping spiders, the grim reaper and haunted scarecrow, not to mention flying ghosts and various other ghouls. The fun starts Halloween night, the 31st at 6pm, 419 Ocean View Ave., Santa Cruz.

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  Suki: Parenting to Avoid Regret

(Photos General) SukiWessling2013.jpgParenting to avoid regret

In my previous post, I wrote about fear porn, journalism which is designed to make parents fearful of the choices they have to make now. Parents who get immersed in this crap that's being spewed at us become immobilized, fearful that everything we do may put our children at risk in some nebulous and undefined future.

I advocated rational decision-making, in which parents make a decision based on the information they have on hand. Then, I wrote, parents should simply move on. Regretting past actions doesn't change the past action, doesn't change the results, and certainly doesn't make us better or happier people.

I always want to make sure on this blog to say that I am not setting myself up as an example of perfection in parenting. I believe that parenting is a messy business, and we are all just doing the best we can with the tools we have available to us. The reason I write about it is that I feel that parents exchanging information and ideas has transformed parenting-I hope my contributions help transform it for the positive.

So here's my:

Case study in avoiding regret

At the age of eighteen months, one of my children was diagnosed with a congenital disorder. It was a physical part of the child's organs that did not work correctly. At the time, all the data that had been accumulated on this particular disorder said that the best practice was to put the child on a low daily dose of antibiotics and watch to see if the body would correct the problem on its own.

I had no reason to question this information. The science was sound-this was a relatively common problem and my child was in no way special or different. (Though to us, of course, he's very special and different!)

We went with the standard treatment. He ended up taking a daily dose of antibiotics for three years, then had the problem surgically repaired once it was clear that he was in the small percentage of children in whom the disorder doesn't correct itself with no intervention.

Simple story, right?

Like many things medical, it wasn't so simple...Read more>>>>

Suki Wessling is a local parent She writes fiction and nonfiction about reading, writing, parenting, education, and homeschooling. If you'd like to learn more about this Suki, please click on "About Suki."

 

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  Quotes fromThe Parent's Tao Te Ching

William Martin, The Parent's Tao Te Ching: Ancient Advice for Modern Parents

"Do not ask your children to strive for extraordinary lives.
Such striving may seem admirable, but it is the way of foolishness.
Help them instead to find the wonder and the marvel of an ordinary life.
Show them the joy of tasting tomatoes, apples and pears.
Show them how to cry when pets and people die.
Show them the infinite pleasure in the touch of a hand.
And make the ordinary come alive for them.
The extraordinary will take care of itself."

(0 Oct 2017) Book_TheTaoTeChingofParenting_81steps.jpg"Do you have agendas for your children that are more important than the children themselves? Lost in the shuffle of uniforms, practices, games, recitals, and performances can be the creative and joyful soul of your child. Watch and listen carefully. Do they have time to daydream? From their dreams will emerge the practices and activities that will make self-discipline as natural as breathing."

"Don't mistake your desire to talk for their readiness to listen. Far more important..."

"Believe this difficult truth. Showing respect in the face of disrespect, love in the face of hate, trust in the face of betrayal, and serenity in the face of turmoil, will teach your children more than all the moral lectures by all the preachers since the dawn of time."

(0 Oct 2017) TaoTeChing_Misbehavior.jpg"Few things in this world are as important as raising children. In every age, every era, every time and place, children are our treasures, our future, our immortality-the vital link in the chain of humanity."
 
"If your child fails at something merely express your confidence in their ability to handle the consequences. If they behave irresponsibly, merely point out the consequences to themselves and others, and again express your trust that they will learn. As soon as possible give them another opportunity to be appropriately responsible. Do not slip into the downward spiral of blame, shame, and control. It doesn't work."

 
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Gateway School K-8, Kindergarten Visit Day 11/4

Kirby 6-12, Fall Open House 11/4

Mount Madonna PreK-12, Fall Open House 11/5

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No tricks, just treats in the form of a spooky, family-friendly Halloween concert put on by the music students at Cabrillo College. Costumes welcome!
October 27,12:40pm

Free, but tickets required

Thomas and Percy's Halloween PartyTM

OCTOBER
14-15, 21-22 & 28-29

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Roaring Camp

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Capitola Village Halloween Parade
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  Capitola Village Halloween Parade
Capitola-Soquel Chamber of Commerce
Date: 10/29/2017 from 2:00pm to 4:00pm
Ages: All Ages
Details: A haunting we will go!
Special Instructions: Line-up begins at 1:30pm in the Beach & Village Parking Lot above Capitola City Hall. Parade begins at 2pm.
City: Capitola Phone: (831) 475-6522 view all details >>
     
Boo!
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Gault Halloween-DIa de los Muertos Parade
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  Gault Halloween-DIa de los Muertos Parade
Gault Elementary School
Date: 10/28/2017 from 9:00am to 2:00pm
Ages: all
Details: Celebrate Fall at the Annual Gault Elementary Halloween - Da de los Muertos Parade & Carnival
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 429-3856 view all details >>
     
Day of the Dead Family Crafts 6th Annual
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  Day of the Dead Family Crafts 6th Annual
Library Freedom
Date: 10/28/2017 from 1:00pm to 3:00pm
Ages: all ages
Details: Day of the Dead Family Crafts
City: Freedom Phone: (831) 768-3420 view all details >>
     
Hands on History: Halloween!
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  Hands on History: Halloween!
MAH
Date: 10/31/2017 from 2:00pm to 5:00pm
Details: We’ll be handing out candy and sharing local history. Who
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
International Games Week
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  International Games Week
Library Scotts Valley
Date: Every day (Oct 30-Nov 4)
Details: Special gaming programs and events suitable for the whole family
City: Scotts Valley Phone: 831-427-7712 view all details >>
     
Day of the Dead Family Crafts 6th Annual
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  Day of the Dead Family Crafts 6th Annual
Library Watsonville
Date: 10/26/2017 from 6:00pm to 8:00pm
Ages: all ages
Details: Day of the Dead Family Crafts
City: Watsonville Phone: (831) 768-3400 view all details >>
     
Thrill the World Santa Cruz 2017
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  Thrill the World Santa Cruz 2017
Louden Nelson Center
Date: 10/28/2017 at 3:00pm
Ages: All ages welcome
Details: Thriller Dancing!
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
Children with Special Needs
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Positive Discipline Community Resources
Date: 10/28/2017 from 10:00am to 12:00pm
Ages: adults
Details: Learn effective strategies for children with Special Needs
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 476-7284 view all details >>
     
Thomas and Percy's Halloween Party
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  Thomas and Percy's Halloween Party
Roaring Camp
Date: Every Su and Sa (Oct 14-Oct 29)
Details: Dress up for Halloween with favorites Thomas and Percy, for a 20 minute train ride, entertainment, and fun filled activities
City: Felton view all details >>
     
Marine Masquerade
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  Marine Masquerade
Seymour Marine Discovery Center (at Long Marine Lab)
Date: 10/27/2017 from 5:30pm to 8:00pm
Ages: All Ages
Details: Join us for Halloween fun!
Special Instructions: Members Free
City: Santa Cruz Phone: 8314593799 view all details >>
     
Dance Party and Celebration
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  Dance Party and Celebration
Tannery Arts Center
Date: 10/28/2017 from 7:30pm to 11:30pm
Ages: All ages
Details: 4 hours of supernatural dance performances, monstrous dance mash-ups, hair raising aerial artists and unearthly spinner, DJ Dadd
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 621-6226 view all details >>
     
Woofpack's Halloween Costume Parade
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  Woofpack's Halloween Costume Parade
Wolfpack
Date: 10/29/2017 from 5:00pm to 7:00pm
Details: Join the dogs in costume parade with or without your dog!
City: Capitola view all details >>
     
     
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