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  Santa Cruz Parent Santa Cruz County

October 12, 2017
Changes and Choices
13 Years Old is Closer to 3 than to 23

Revealing History Through Geography

Another Reason to Continue Teaching Cursive...

Science Shows/Movies for Kids
Fun Events!
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  Changes and Choices

(0 Oct 2017) BertiesGuide.jpgI just finished reading Bertie's Guide to Life & Mothers by Alexander McCall Smith. It's delightful, even laugh-out-loud funny in certain passages. I haven't burst out laughing like this since the chicken scene in One for the Money by Janet Evanovitch. In the words of his intriguing characters, McCall seeds his story with gentle, pithy, social commentary on modern goings-on, relationships and life. Our hero Bertie, a very intelligent 6 about to turn 7, spends a lot of time reading and thinking about freedom, since he suffers under the thumb of an overbearing, full-of-herself mother who imposes extreme parenting on him. Bertie yearns to go on a cub scout campout and to receive a jackknife for his birthday. These wishes shock his mother. What will transpire?

It's interesting that just as I'm reading that in Bertie's Scotland boys and girls can both join the cub scouts, the Boy Scouts of America announces that girls will be allowed to join Cub Scout and Boy Scout programs.  Read about reasons and objections here.  This certainly expands choices for Santa Cruz parents and children.Read more on BoyScouts/GirlScouts.>>>

Zachary Roberts, Head of Gateway School, shares how to navigate the early teen years in his essay "13 Years Old is Closer to 3 than to 23." He is spot on!

Did you always 'kinda' like geology? You were the kid who came home with rocks in your pockets.  You went on family vacations to Bryce Canyon, Zion National Park, Arches and Yosemite and were dazzled by the amazing rock formations. Now your kids are bringing home the rocks? Check out the new exhibit at the Santa Cruz Museum of Natural History.

Please recommend our newsletter to new friends so they won't miss a few tidbits of wisdom from our author contributors, and as always the many fun events! Check the online calendar.

Enjoy a "rocky" weekend with family!  Parmalee

  13 Years Old is Closer to 3 than to 23

(0 Oct 2017) ZacharyRoberts2.jpgby Zachary Roberts, Head of Gateway School

Back-to-School-Night is often used as a time to share classroom curriculum, explain routines and expectations, and make sure families see prettily completed work - all so that they are reassured that the children are learning effectively. After all, aren't parents most interested in the academic content their children are going to be taught?

My experience is that the answer to that question is "no".

What parents crave most of all is connection - just like children in the classroom. Research clearly shows that for adults and children alike, emotional safety and social connection come before engaged learning and a growth mindset. Wendy Mogul, psychologist and author of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee and The Blessing of a B Minus, speaks about this very compellingly (or go back further to Abraham Maslow and the hierarchy of needs).

(0 Oct 2017) GatewayMiddleSchoolers.jpgThis is true even - and especially - as children enter middle school. Adolescence is a natural time of distancing and redefining by children. Parents have to learn to navigate their own feelings and experiences at the same time that their children begin developing more individualized identities. What guardians really want is to be emotionally and socially connected with the teachers, with each other, and with the ideas and values that underlie the program. They want to know that their children will be prepared for the future not just academically, but also as good people with strong character and integrity.

This year I offered four distinct pieces of advice to middle school families at Back to School Night. My hope is that all of our families engage in an ongoing conversation about our beliefs and values as families, think carefully about the parenting choices we make, and don't lose sight of the forest for the trees when it comes to the hard work of raising children.

Homework: Don't do your child's homework, and don't correct it when it's wrong. You've already been through school! The goal of homework is not for students to get it completed, it's for children to get practice with knowledge and skills. Teachers use homework to inform their own sense of a child's progress. And if your child is spending too much time on a particular piece, use your parental authority to call a stop. Check in with the teacher to help calibrate and problem solve as needed.

Devices: Know all the passwords and check all the apps on your child's phone regularly. Please don't assume that they will be able to be honest with you about what's going on in the digital realm (either their own behavior, or that of others). Children are not developmentally ready for much of the online world, and this includes social media. Check out this TED talk by Tristan Harris for more on how children (and adults) are manipulated by technology.

After school: Let your child have some downtime.  Participation on sports teams, dance squads, theater productions, and other enrichment activities is a wonderful way to enrich your child's life. At the same time, the neuroscience is clear: children of all ages need unstructured and imaginative playtime to consolidate their growing neural pathways and develop a wide range of psychological and intersocial skills.

Play the Long Game: Anticipate that at some point, in some area (academic or social), your child will really struggle. When that happens, choose to frame the challenge as an opportunity. Treat each moment as a snapshot, not an epic movie. Your child will look to you for clues that what's happening is not a catastrophe; use this time to model mindfulness and a growth mindset. And please reach out to partner with teachers and administration to help address the issues!

Neurologically speaking, the way the brain of a 13 year old works is much closer to that of a three year old than a 23 year old. But a 13 year old may seem more like a 23 year old physically, intellectually, or verbally, which can confuse our senses. They often aren't ready for the independence they say they should have, so stay close to your child even as they push you away; it's what they secretly want, but are afraid (or don't know how) to say.

Zachary Roberts, Ed.D. is the Head of School at Gateway School in Santa Cruz. Mr. Roberts holds a B.A. in English from Stanford University and a Ed.D. in Educational Leadership from Mills College. He is currently reading The Courage to Teach: Exploring the Inner Landscape of a Teacher's Life, 10th Anniversary Edition, by Parker J. Palmer.

 

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  Revealing History Through Geography

by Heather Moffat McCoy, Executive Director
Santa Cruz Museum of Natural History

As a young undergraduate, I fell in love with science when I first learned to read rocks. There was something so amazing to me about being able to examine a cliff's rocky layers and to use my knowledge of geology and paleontology to reconstruct the story within them. That revelation opened a whole new world to me-one brimming with stories to learn. Mountains told of tremendous uplift in their folds and faults. Fossils told of ancient oceans now far from any shore. Throughout its long history, our landscape has seen many changes, some dramatic, some minuscule; and the field of geology helps us to interpret those patterns and their underlying processes, thereby revealing the stories within.

While our Museum often focuses on the biological aspects of natural history, we are also proud to showcase our region's geologic history. Our permanent exhibit on the geology of Santa Cruz County introduces visitors to our region's common rocks and fossils, such as the large sea cow discovered in Zayante. This month, we will focus on geology through a special new exhibit and several great programs.

Rocks and Waves exhibit designed by Visiting Curator Frank Perry. Open until February 4, the exhibit explores the natural bridges and arches that once were so prominent along West Cliff Drive, where now only a few remain.

Frank will give a special Naturalist Night talk on November 9 to discuss how our local cliffs have changed over the years and why.

Heather Moffat McCoy, Executive Director

Check out the exhibit and then visit Natural Bridges State Beach to view some of the formations that remain from the evolving coastline!

 
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  Another Reason to Continue Teaching Cursive...

Attention, Students: Put Your Laptops Away

by James Doubek/NPR

"As laptops become smaller and more ubiquitous, and with the advent of tablets, the idea of taking notes by hand just seems old-fashioned to many students today. Typing your notes is faster — which comes in handy when there's a lot of information to take down. But it turns out there are still advantages to doing things the old-fashioned way.

For one thing, research shows that laptops and tablets have a tendency to be distracting — it's so easy to click over to Facebook in that dull lecture. And a study has shown that the fact that you have to be slower when you take notes by hand is what makes it more useful in the long run.

....When people type their notes, they have this tendency to try to take verbatim notes and write down as much of the lecture as they can," Mueller tells NPR's Rachel Martin. "The students who were taking longhand notes in our studies were forced to be more selective - because you can't write as fast as you can type. And that extra processing of the material that they were doing benefited them." Read more>>>>>


I believe strongly in the kinesthetic benefits of cursive writing.  This article supports my belief for different reasons.  If you agree and your school hasn't joined the re-discovery of teaching cursive trend, find a way to have fun with cursive at home! Still not convinced? Check out these articles or google "cursive writing." Parmalee  P.S. The state of California has mandated the teaching of cursive in its public schools.


The Joys and Benefits of Cursive Writing  By Cynthia Dagnal-Myron, Science Writer/Huffington Post "Children not only learn to read more quickly when they first learn to write by hand, but they also remain better able to generate ideas and retain information. In other words, it's not just what we write that matters - but how."

(0 Oct 2017) dnealian_sample.jpgLearning Cursive Handwriting All Over Again by Mark Tucker/Write Analogue "I had no idea of the "rabbit hole" I would enter when I decided to research learning cursive handwriting. For something that many people think is "dying" or "non-essential", there are a bunch of resources out there for someone interested in learning cursive and/or improving their handwriting. I had no idea what I was getting into, but it's been a rewarding education."

Is cursive handwriting slowly dying out in America? by April Brown/PBS "... the handwriting tradition of cursive, taught in classrooms around the country for decades, has seen something of a slow demise in recent years. To be fair, it's not quite nearing extinction level, but some might argue it is increasingly endangered. With young thumbs furiously pounding out abbreviated words and internet slang while texting and with fingers flying across keyboards writing emails, reports and, yes, even news articles, the act of taking a pen and carefully crafting notes and letters is occurring less frequently in the modern world.

Cursive Isn't Dead Yet. Not if Denver's Stanley British Primary Has Anything To Say About It by Jenny Brundin/Colorado Public Radio "This is the digital age and I'm looking at something many have thought was increasingly near extinction. I'm looking at exquisite and beautiful cursive handwriting. It's rare to see such painstaking effort put into penmanship."

Ten Reasons People Still Need Cursive by Jennifer Doverspike/TheFederalist "While some argue cursive writing belongs in the archives and Common Core ushers it out of schools, the evidence shows we need it as much as ever. Why cursive? Educational policymakers pose this question as they face the increasingly digital and app-based twenty-first century, a world in which the curls and flourishes of longhand seem increasingly outmoded. But I pulled out my favorite pen and thought of ten reasons."

 

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  Science Shows/Movies for Kids

By Carlos Mejia, Fatherly

How It's Made From bubblegum to socks to airplane engines, How It's Made explores how everyday items are created, processed, and manufactured. The show's ability to make mundane and complicated items seem equally interesting is an impressive feat. The off-screen narrator and his puns may be cringe-worthy for you, but kids will enjoy the free guided tour of how stamps are made (that's a two-part episode).
Age Group: Little Kids  Available Seasons: THREE

Mythbusters For 10 seasons, Mythbusters made science fun and ended everything in an explosion (no seriously, the hosts love blowing stuff up on this show). It's part school lesson, part super rich nerd in a tech store. What good is an engineering degree without the excitement and desire to create, smash, and destroy things in the name of science? With so much to choose from, you can cherry pick the Mythbusters crew at their best, like when they test movie action scenes in real life to determine what's real and what's special effects.
Age Group: Little Kids and Family  Available Seasons: TEN

March of the Penguins Perhaps the greatest feature-length nature documentary ever made, March of the Penguins is an inside look at the beautiful and brutal life of emperor penguins in Antarctica. Narrated by Morgan Freeman, the film also serves as a great life lesson to kids: parents will do anything to ensure their children's safety, and Freeman can make anything sound amazing.
Rated: G
Age Group: 
Little Kids and Family  Run Time: 80 MINUTES

To the Arctic This educational nature documentary follows a polar bear mother and her two cubs as they traverse the Arctic wilderness. It's a rare look into the tough, frozen way of life from the eyes of a wild animal. Plus, at just 45 minutes long, it's a quick movie that's great for the entire family.
Rated: G
Age Group: 
Little Kids and Family  Run Time: 40 MINUTES

Survivorman Survival expert Les Stroud is either a wild genius or a total crackpot. On the one hand, he's amazing at understanding and navigating ecosystems. On the other hand, he says he's seen Bigfoot. Either way, his show is a rollicking good time. Stroud survives the elements and, more to the point, embraces them. He never seems to suffer as he bushwhacks his way through the Amazon, the Rockies, and Patagonia. He's alone and he's fine. There are lessons here about nature and about life. Be prepared and smart and you'll be fine.
Age Group: Family (The potentially nervous-making show is best watched in a group.)  Available Seasons: TWO

Stargate SG-1  Some kids need a narrative to help them get excited about science. For those not ready to enjoy Star Trek: The Original Series (also on Hulu), Stargate SG-1 is a great intro to the genre. It's smart, but not too smart, and there's a reason it ran for longer than The X-Files: the plots are zippy and the scientific concepts are easily digestible. Make your kid a "Gater" and an affinity for science is sure to follow.
Age Group: Big Kids  Available Seasons: TEN

What on Earth? This series explores and explains the planet's wildest phenomena, drawing kids in instantly. Want to know the mystery behind an unexplained and seemingly coded pattern of trees in a Chinese forest that can only be observed by satellite? This show has you covered. Not only is it super engaging for the young and curious, it also preps adults for cocktail parties.
Age Group: Big Kids  Available Seasons: ONE

Bizarre Foods with Andrew Zimmern  Kids already make weird snacks, like boogers or ketchup on pancakes. Well, chef Andrew Zimmern is the king of weird eats. The only difference between Zimmern and an overly adventurous young eater is that Zimmern has a travel budget. The show provides a great introduction to the science of cooking by showing kids what can be done with a pan and how all different types of foods can be transformed.
Age Group: Big Kids and Family  Available Seasons: THREE

  Fun Events!
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Mount Madonna PreK-12, Campus Tour 10/18

Gateway School K-8, Kindergarten Visit Day 11/4

Thomas and Percy's Halloween PartyTM

OCTOBER
14-15, 21-22 & 28-29

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Roaring Camp

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SuperKid Triathlon
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  SuperKid Triathlon
Finish Line Productions
Date: 10/15/2017
Details: A swim, bike and run course for kids!
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
Mr. Limoncello's Great Library Escape Game
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  Mr. Limoncello's Great Library Escape Game
Library Central
Date: Every day (Oct 1-Oct 24)
Ages: Adults
Details: Are you clever enough to escape from Mr. Lemoncello's library?
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 427-7717 view all details >>
     
Arboretum Fall Plant Sale
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  Arboretum Fall Plant Sale
Arboretum at UC Santa Cruz
Date: 10/14/2017 from 10:00am to 4:00pm
Details: Get some dazzling color for your home garden
City: Santa Cruz Phone: 831.427.2998 view all details >>
     
The Smithsonian Is Coming!
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  The Smithsonian Is Coming!
San Lorenzo Valley Museum
Date: Every Su, Fri and Sa (Oct 14-Nov 26)
Details: Hometown Teams explores the deep roots of sports in American culture, and shows how we engage in and watch sports to have fun, b
City: Boulder Creek view all details >>
     
Heritage Harvest Festival
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  Heritage Harvest Festival
State Park Wilder Ranch
Date: 10/21/2017 from 11:00am to 4:00pm
Ages: All
Details: Celebrate! The harvest is in. See tractor, draft horse and living history demonstrations, listen to music, make crafts, and ...
Special Instructions: $10 parking
City: Santa Cruz Phone: 831.426-0505 view all details >>
     
Boo at the Zoo
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  Boo at the Zoo
San Francisco Zoo
Date: Every day (Oct 28-Oct 29) from 11:00am to 4:00pm
Details: Make plans to join us for a "not-too-spooky" Halloween family festival where you can trick-or-treat around the Zoo and see the
City: San Francisco view all details >>
     
San Benito Olive Festival
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  San Benito Olive Festival
San Benito Olive Festival
Date: 10/14/2017 from 10:00am to 5:00pm
Ages: All ages
Details: Enjoy the San Benito Olive Festival -wonderful tastes, drinks and entertainment
Special Instructions: Discounted tickets available until Nov 14, 2017
City: Tres Pinos view all details >>
     
Beliefs Behind Behaviors
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  Beliefs Behind Behaviors
Positive Discipline Community Resources
Date: 10/14/2017 from 10:00am to 12:00pm
Ages: adults
Details: Beliefs Behind Behaviors
Special Instructions: Limited scholarships are sometimes available. Childcare will be provided onsite for $10 per child per class session, but please request it and/or sign up for it in advance.
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 476-7284 view all details >>
     
Lobster Feed Fundraiser
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  Lobster Feed Fundraiser
Mountain Parks Foundation
Date: 10/14/2017 from 4:30pm to 8:30pm
Details: Imagine! Eating lobsters under the redwoods in support of State Parks!
City: Felton Phone: 831.335.3174 view all details >>
     
Oktoberfest
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  Oktoberfest
Catholic Community of San Agustin
Date: 10/13/2017 from 6:30pm to 9:00pm
Details: Okoberfest! 6:30-9:00pm $15 per person (get tickets after mass
City: Scotts Valley Phone: 831-438-3633 view all details >>
     
Bellies, Birth & Babies
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  Bellies, Birth & Babies
Birth Network of Santa Cruz County
Date: 10/14/2017 from 2:00pm to 5:00pm
Details: Learn from birth and postpartum doulas, childbirth educators, birth photographers, midwives, fitness and yoga teachers about pr
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
Trivia on Tap
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  Trivia on Tap
Library Central & Scotts Valley
Date: The 3rd Th of every month from 6:00pm to 7:30pm
Details: Bring your friends, form a team (or take it on solo), and compete against other groups to win the grand prize.
City: Scotts Valley view all details >>
     
Annual Santa Cruz Band Review
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  Annual Santa Cruz Band Review
Beach Boardwalk
Date: 10/21/2017 from 9:00am to 2:00pm
Details: Great fun watching teen bands march and play!
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
Arboretum Fall Plant Sale
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  Arboretum Fall Plant Sale
Arboretum at UC Santa Cruz
Date: 10/14/2017 from 10:00am to 4:00pm
Details: Get some dazzling color for your home garden
City: Santa Cruz Phone: 831.427.2998 view all details >>
     
Open Studios
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  Open Studios
Cultural Council of Santa Cruz County
Date: Every Su and Sa (Oct 7-Oct 22) from 11:00am to 5:00pm
Details: The Cultural Council's Open Studios Art Tour brings artists and art enthusiasts together--from the redwoods to the sea
City: Santa Cruz County view all details >>
     
     
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