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  Santa Cruz Parent Santa Cruz, CA

November 5, 2015
Heading into the Holiday Seasoon

Maria Popova: 9 Learnings from 9 Years of Brain Picking

What does your young child need this holiday season?

Christine: Repetitive Learning May Not Be Good for Autism

The Magic of Capitola - En Plein Air
Stephen continued
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  Heading into the Holiday Seasoon

(A Nov) DyaniandKidsLeaves.jpgWe're turning toward one of my favorite seasons of the year. I'm sure it's a holdover from childhood memories --a respite from homework; bringing home a live turkey and collecting feathers after the men dispatched the turkey; cousins, aunts and uncles arriving for Thanksgiving or Christmas, the warmth of a blazing fire, endless Monopoly, Clue and go fish games; setting up the train and the snowy (cotton) village around a "mirror" skating pond; sliding on sleds and toboggans on the hill behind the house with four brothers and assorted neighborhood friends; ice skating on canals and swamps where men were ice fishing; turning out all the lights except for the Christmas tree, and so on! Many of us in California are from somewhere else, and while we've changed climates and activities, the warmth of the season awaits us.

Here are some of our traditional celebrations.

Diwali, Festival of Lights ~ November 11 Advent ~ four weeks before Christmas
Thanksgiving Day ~ November 26 Christmas ~ December 25
Hanukkah ~ December 7-14 Kwanzaa ~ December 26 - January 1
St. Nicholas Day ~ December 6 New Year's Eve ~ December 31
Yule ~ the Solstice, December 21 New Year's Day ~ January 1

If you're a parent with a challenging child,or a teacher with an "explosive" (Photos General) ArtFactory_Pre-K_Photo.jpgchild, this article may be helpful: "What If Everything You Knew About Disciplining Kids Was Wrong?"  Also, check out our calendar section on parenting workshops.

Looking for a creative art class for your little one?  There's some amazing joy and creativity going on in Yvette Contois' Art for PreK classes at The Art Factory.  This weekend take the children to Capitola to see local artists painting local scenery!

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Have a fine fall weekend with your family, Parmalee

 

 

 

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  Maria Popova: 9 Learnings from 9 Years of Brain Picking

Maria Popova has spent 9 years reading, living, thinking and writing.  She recently shared 9 life lessons she learned from her journey.  If these lessons resonate with you, read her expanded thoughts on each. I submit that we parents would do well to think deeply about who we are, who we want to help our children become and how we achieve both on our journeys. Not surprisingly, quality literature is one of our allies in this path. 

(A Nov) Book_SendakTheJoyofReading.jpg1.       Allow yourself the uncomfortable luxury of changing your mind.

2.       Do nothing for prestige or status or money or approval alone.

3.       Be generous.

4.       Build pockets of stillness into your life.

5.       When people tell you who they are, Maya Angelou famously advised, believe them. Just as importantly, however, when people try to tell you who you are, don't believe them.

6.       Presence is far more intricate and rewarding an art than productivity.

7.       "Expect anything worthwhile to take a long time."

8.       Seek out what magnifies your spirit.

9.       Don't be afraid to be an idealist

Maria Popova is a Bulgarian writer, blogger, and critic living in Brooklyn, New York. She is known for her blog BrainPickings.org, which features her writing on culture, books, and eclectic subjects off and on the Internet.

 

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  What does your young child need this holiday season?

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Let's start out with what your child does not need.
She doesn't need the new Hello Barbie.
He doesn't need a new Touch and Swipe Baby Phone.
She doesn't need the latest Game Boy or Disney Princess Doll.
He can do without a Drone Camera (even if you really want it).

It is not toys and gifts that your child needs. Your child most need you to truly connect with her. It isn't stuff that is the real need - it is the fabric of a connected life. Connected to family and family traditions, to nature and the seasons, and connected to herself. The example of connecting the adults offer is the style of connecting imitated by the child. It is up to you to show the path to connecting in the holiday season.

It is you that your child most needs. You, the parent available, present and connecting. You are your child's guide in this life on earth, and you are her example of how to live. To me, holidays are an opportunity to develop and nurture traditions of connecting with each other. And I'd like to share some specific suggestions.  Click for suggestions!

Steve Spitalny is an early childhood consultant and writer and offers lectures, workshops and mentoring around the world. Teachers and parents alike rave about their experiences and want him back for more! You can learn more about him at: Chamakanda.com

 

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  Christine: Repetitive Learning May Not Be Good for Autism

(A Nov) AutismSpectrumSymbol.jpgPeople with autism can appear to be very inflexible. Learning things can be difficult. Many times they will learn something in a specific context and have problems transferring their knowledge to another situation. It is common to teach these people using a repetition technique. New research looking specifically at this technique has raised questions... continue>>>

Suki Wessling is a local parent who writes about reading, writing, parenting, education, and homeschooling and has recently added a blog for children, Kids Learn, A blog about how kids learn, to her repertoire.

 

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  The Magic of Capitola - En Plein Air

The Magic of Capitola - En Plein Air

Capitola Art and Cultural Commission!
Welcome to The Magic of Capitola en Plein Air!
Date: Every day (Nov 6-Nov 8)

Welcome to The Magic of Capitola en Plein Air!

Watch artists as they capture beautiful images of Capitola-by-the-Sea: iconic pastel beach houses, wooded creek, historic Stockton Bridge and  railroad trestle, stunning seascapes, rocky sheer cliffs

(A Nov) PaulFortis_Carmel.jpgSee the 2015 Artist Roster here.

Saturday, Nov 7 ~ 10 - 2 pm Watch artists paint all around Capitola!

Sunday, Nov 8 ~ Esplanade Park

12 - 6 pm Buy original artworks from dozens of exhibiting artists, engage your creative side at the pop-up public art tent, enjoy live music, and more!

2pm Judge & curator Susan Hillhouse Leask presents A Brief History of Plein Air Painting.

3 pm Celebrate with us as prizes and ribbons are awarded in the pro and amateur divisions.

In case of rain, keep calm, and paint on!  Sunday activities move to Capitola Community Center @ Jade Street Park, 4400 Jade Street.

Location: Capitola Main Beach, 110 Monterey Ave., Carmel-by-the-Sea Map
website Capitola Village   Art by Sally Bookman and Paul Fortis

 

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Kirby School 5-12, Open House 11/10

 

Gateway School K-8, School Day Tour 11/11

 

Gateway School K-8, Kindergarten Visit Day 11/14

 

Waldorf K-8, Waldorf Alive! A Walk Through the Grades 11/18

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Books by Stephen Spitalny to Enrich and Support Your  Parenting

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Entertaining, irreverent, and totally accessible answers to the questions you never got to ask in science class

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Japanese Cultural Fair Family Fun Day
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  Japanese Cultural Fair Family Fun Day
Japanese Cultural Fair
Date: 05/06/2017 from 1:00pm to 4:00pm
Details: Learn traditional Japanese games
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
'It's Showtime, Folks!'
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  'It's Showtime, Folks!'
Santa Cruz Barbershop
Date: 11/07/2015 at 7:00pm
Details: Favorite show songs, sung in 4-part barbershop harmony
City: Capitola view all details >>
     
STEAM CARNIVAL
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Two Bit Circus
Date: Every day (Nov 6-Nov 8) from 10:00am to 6:00pm
Details: High-tech games, interactive installations, dynamic build zones, round the clock stage shows, lab demos, aerialists, artists, fo
City: San Francisco Phone: 415-274-0400 view all details >>
     
Watsonville Band Parades/Concerts
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Watsonville Community Band
Date: 11/11/2015 at 10:20am
Ages: all
Details: Watsonville Community Band entertains you at parades & concerts
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
Give Yourself to Your Child
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Sea Glass & Ocean Art Festival
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Santa Cruz Seaglass Festival
Date: Every day (Nov 5-Nov 6) from 10:00am to 5:00pm
Details: The romance of sea glass on display and for sale!
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 332-7188 view all details >>
     
Give Yourself to Your Child
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"Saving Capitalism: For the Many, Not the Few"
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  "Saving Capitalism: For the Many, Not the Few"
Blum Center at UC Santa Cruz
Date: 11/07/2015 at 7:00pm
Details: Reich will discuss his latest book, which explores inequality in how the rules of capitalism have evolved and what it will take
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
Give Yourself to Your Child
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6th Annual Veterans Day Celebration
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  6th Annual Veterans Day Celebration
Fort Ord Warhorse
Date: 11/07/2015 at 9:30am
Details: Everyone's invited to 6th Annual Veterans Day Celebration
City: Marina view all details >>
     
Young Eagles - Kids Fly Free
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Young Eagles
Date: The 2nd Sa of every month from 8:00am to 4:00pm
Ages: 8 yrs - 17 yrs
Details: Kds fly free EAA airplane rides, on the first Saturday of every month between January and April and then again between September
City: Watsonville Phone: 831-531-8440 view all details >>
     
Give Yourself to Your Child
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Give Yourself to Your Child
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Family Day at Monterey Museum of Art - Mini Masterpieces
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  Family Day at Monterey Museum of Art - Mini Masterpieces
Monterey Museum of Art
Date: 11/07/2015 from 11:00am to 4:00pm
Details: Educational art activities for all ages designed for fun, learning, and connecting with art and community
City: Monterey Phone: 831.372.5477 view all details >>
     
The Magic of Capitola - En Plein Air
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  The Magic of Capitola - En Plein Air
Capitola Art and Cultural Commission!
Date: Every day (Nov 6-Nov 8)
Details: Welcome to The Magic of Capitola en Plein Air!
City: Carmel-by-the-Sea view all details >>
     
Give Yourself to Your Child
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  Give Yourself to Your Child
Date:
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  Stephen continued

What are the foods that are important to you as part of your family holiday? Do you have the same foods every year on that holiday? That is something that makes memories and helps your child have direct experiences of the cycle of the year.

When I think of foods, I try to think how the child can engage in the preparation of those foods. Can he help cut up the vegetables? Can she pour in the ingredients for the sauces? Can you knead the dough together? Be a creative cook and create ways for your young child to help prepare the food. Food preparation is a social gesture of service. Encourage your child in this way. One tip though - plan for the extra time that these young helpers will add to your prep time.

Another aspect of food is that you can make food together for other people as gifts. Grandma would love some pumpkin bread you made for her. Uncle Steve would be thankful for a batch of chocolate chip cookies. And don't forget the mail delivery person and your health care professionals. The gift of food is a gift of love!

There are many other types of simple gifts you can make together with your children, the internet is littered with them. You can help your child to create gifts for siblings and other relatives. It is a wonderful sea change when you can shift your family culture from gift-getting to gift-giving! And you have created this opportunity for spending time together engaged on behalf of another person. Incredible!

What about singing together? My fondest elementary school memory is the weeks leading up to Winter Break each year. The school would open a half hour early for those who wanted, and the halls were full of teachers and children singing together songs from various religions and traditions. You can create this on a smaller scale and sing at home, maybe after dinner each evening, or in the car. "Of course," you say. "That's a great idea but I can't sing." The secret is, your child is NOT a critic. She will be a joyous participant in song with you and you will even discover it is FUN.

How about arranging for some friends and families to get together and walk around a neighborhood knocking on doors and offering songs to the residents? Caroling is great fun and you can even meet your neighbors. The possibilities are infinite.

Maybe you can have a special family outing to a special performance. Perhaps there is an annual artistic or musical performance in your area that you can make part of your family annual tradition, and each year make sure to return as a family in your fancy outing clothes. In my area, El Teatro Campesino presents theartrical productions and every other year they offer a version of the story of "Our Lady of Guadalupe' they call "La Virgen del Tepeyac." For my younger daughters, and now my granddaughter, it is our family tradition to head down to San Juan Bautista and enjoy the pageant (it's really an amazing show) of the meeting of the traditional culture with the Spanish colonialists.

If giving gifts is important to you, I suggest limit the amount. Wisely choose the one gift that is just right for the child, and that she will enjoy and treasure. Gifts made by you are extra special.

A gift that is something for the child to do, or make, is a great way to go. How about a tool box or sewing kit and some supplies to go along with it. And then be sure to make something along with your child so she can learn by imitating you (because imitation is how the young child learns).

What about one special book as a gift? Maybe each year, for a birthday or a holiday gift, choose one book that you sense will mean something for your child. And then after he receives the book, read it to him again and again.

Oh...don't forget to limit your own use of electronic devices so they are not an obstacle to connecting with your child. Have some electronic free time, and make the time to use your smart phone when your child is asleep, or otherwise engaged and you are elsewhere. Be smarter than your smart phone.

The best present for your child is your presence. True connecting with your young child takes some active will on your part to overcome the habits our consumer culture has created. It's worth the effort.

And as a holiday offering, all my books are available at 15% off through December 31. Click here for details.

Happy Holidays to you all, whatever holidays you enjoy!

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