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  Santa Cruz Parent Santa Cruz County

November 16, 2017
Seal Connection

Not Just Busywork, Skills for a Lifetime

Marriage Tuneup from Relationship Research Experts

Turkey for Thanksgiving Because Then We Make Turkey Broth
Fun Events!
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  Seal Connection

(0 Nov 2017) SealNamedPatches.jpgLittle Harbor Seals would ride the waves alongside us in the brisk ocean waters off Drakes Island, Maine. My brothers and I imagined they picked us because we were so good at riding those long rolling  waves on pine boards our dad had shaped for us. Because riding waves is as much by feel as vision, I would glance over at my parallel surfing companion about 10' away and find her surfing the wave while looking at me. That connection with seals has never left me.

Sunday there's a special talk about Weddel Seals at Seymour Marine Discovery Center. Children are encouraged to come and bring their parents. Join the Antarctic explorers as they discuss the logistics of Antarctic research, recent research findings, and their newly-released children's book (for ages 5-8), A Seal Named Patches, that infuses learning with the excitement of scientific discovery! Come for the science, bring the kids, and stay for the book signing in the exhibit hall.

SCHOOL CHOICE -Now is a good time to visit schools you may be considering for the 2018-19 school year, or even making a switch this school year. Many schools offer special tour/open house days. You are looking for the best fit for your child and schools seek families that value their unique philosophy and programs. The options in Santa Cruz County are diverse and exceptional. The right fit is there. The effort is worth it!

RELATIONSHIPS - We all know relationships take effort. I learned a lot reading articles on the website, The Gottman Institute, A Research Based Approach to Relationships. Amazingly I learned that 69% of problems in a relationship are unsolvable. Oh my! No wonder we all need help!

Please recommend our newsletter to new friends so they won't miss a few tidbits of wisdom from our author contributors, and as always the many fun events! Check the online calendar.

Enjoy a fall weekend with family!  Parmalee

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  Not Just Busywork, Skills for a Lifetime

(0 Nov 2017) ArtFactory_feltedheartornament.jpgThere's something beautifully right about a community which attracts and supports so many artists, crafters who create and teach. Just look at all the holiday craft shows this weekend and in the next few weeks. All these artists had parents and teachers who nourished and inspired them, taught them skills that would sustain the creative spark for a lifetime. Now they are sharing those talents and products with us.

This weekend let's visit the holiday craft shows in search of inspiration for crafts we could share with the children in our lives. We might even find that perfect, unique, handmade gift for special relatives and friends

(0 Nov 2017) ArtFactory_XmasTrees.jpgWe are blessed with many excellent teachers who offer classes for children. For example, artist, teacher, graphic artist and parent Yvette Contois opened her Art Factory Studio to children and adults about 10 ears ago.  Over the years, she has offered drawing, painting, printmaking, sculpture and mixed media collage, colored pencil, watercolor, acrylic and tempera paint, watercolors, acrylic painting, woodworking, jewelry making, and more!

(0 Nov 2017) ArtFactory_SewFun.jpgWhat rcently caught my attention was the Tuesday sewing class where children learn hand stitching, sewing with mixed textiles, using a sewing machine, quilting, weaving, dyeing, felting, making wearable art. These are skills missing in many schools and for so many years that we parents may not have been exposed to sewing.

Catching up with Yvette, we learned, "We teach sewing to help strengthen a child's eye-hand coordination and fine motor skills. Sewing skills empower a child with their creative expression and ability to perform practical mending tasks. Above all sewing teaches children an enormous amount of patience and perseverance."

(0 Nov 2017) ArtFactory_WeavingCloseup.jpgFor millennia, parents and teachers have known that time spent crafting with the hands, eyes, ears and minds yields life skill rewards beyond art skills. And now the experts confirm it!

Benefits of Handiwork Gleaned from "Experts"

*Bilateral coordination helps in areas like writing, tying shoes, typing.
*Fine motor coordination translates to other areas like playing instruments.
*Waiting for a next step requires self-control ,patience and often flexibility when something doesn't turn out exactly as envisioned.
*Completing a craft, age/skill level appropriate, gives a sense of accomplishment.
*Handwork cultivates artistic feelings and appreciation for beauty.
*Handwork encourages a sense of order, sequence, neatness.
*Handwork teaches knowledge of various materials: wood, clay, textiles, paper, paint...
*Handcraft teaches respect for productivity.
*Crafting helps with visual processes: noticing patterns, colors, textures, paying attention to details.
*Arts and crafts help with executive functioning: focusing attention, controlling impulses, using memory, planning behavior.
*Artistic endeavors help us all feel good about ourselves, engenders self-pride.
*Art allows us to express ourselves, to let our imagination soar.
*We learn to work with others, in the company of others or alone.
*Crafts in the home are opportunities for quality parent-child bonding time. Crafts in a class afford quality teacher-bonding and friend-making time!

 

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  Marriage Tuneup from Relationship Research Experts

(0 Nov 2017) GottmanInstituteLogo.jpg"We understand that the human family is in crisis, and that all individuals are capable of and deserve compassion. It is our mission to reach out to families in order to help create and maintain greater love and health in relationships. We are committed to an ongoing program of research that increases the understanding of relationships and adds to the development of interventions that have been carefully evaluated. It is our goal to make our services accessible to the broadest reach of people across race, religion, class, culture, sexual orientation, and ethnicity." Drs. John & Julie Gottman

Managing vs. Resolving Conflict in Relationships: The Blueprints for Success by Marni Feuerman, Nov. 9, 2017, 4 min read

In The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, Dr. John Gottman's research proves that 69% of problems in a relationship are unsolvable. These may be things like personality traits your partner has that rub you the wrong way, or long-standing issues around spending and saving money. Their research findings emphasize the idea that couples must learn to manage conflict rather than avoid or attempt to eliminate it.

Trying to solve unsolvable problems is counterproductive, and no couple will ever completely eliminate them. However, discussing them is constructive and provides a positive opportunity for understanding and growth. Let's look at three "conflict blueprints" to help you and your partner constructively manage conflict around unsolvable problems. Continue>>>

 Emotionally Intelligent Husbands are Key to a Lasting Marriage by Kyle Benson, Oct 7, 2016, 4 min read

In a long-term study of 130 newlywed couples, Dr. John Gottman discovered that men who allow their wives to influence them have happier marriages and are less likely to divorce.

This critical skill is not limited to heterosexual couples. It's essential in same-sex relationships as well, but the research shows that gay and lesbian couples are notably better at it than straight couples. See The 12 Year Study for more on this. Continue>>>

 The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling by Ellie Lisitsa, April 24, 2013, 3 min read

The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse is a metaphor depicting the end of times in the New Testament. They describe conquest, war, hunger, and death respectively. Dr. Gottman uses this metaphor to describe communication styles that can predict the end of a relationship. Continue>>>

 
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There's sure to be something for everyone in our medley of holiday events from November through December.

We've scoured our sources to bring you choices.  If you don't see your event please let us know!

  Turkey for Thanksgiving Because Then We Make Turkey Broth

(0 Nov 2017) TurkeyBroth2.jpgNo quantities here because it depends on the size of the bird.  All ingredients are "to taste."  Wing it. You cannot go wrong with this recipe.

After the turkey has been largely eaten, place everything (you've saved every bone!) into the crock pot, pressure cooker or large pot, cover with water and cook on medium heat until the meat falls off the bones.  Scoop out bones, meat, everything into a strainer.  Let it all cool.  Skim the fat off the liquid.  Separate and set aside the meat.

Chop celery and celery leaves into edible bites and toss into the broth.  Saute chopped onions in olive oil until translucent.  Add to broth.  Add a can of tomato sauce.  Add two tablespoons of your preferred turkey bouillion.  Simmer. Sometimes I squeeze in two lemons at the last minute.  Cook rice.  I like a combination of brown and wild rice.  To serve, place rice into bowl, then ladle turkey soup over rice.  Salt and pepper to taste.

I added about a teaspoon of ground chipotle pepper to the last batch I made.  That was delicious! I might try adding chipotle and lime juice next time.  Another variation would be to up the green power with a bunch of shredded kale.  Of course you can add any vegetable you like! 

Naturally any soup stored in quart jars in the refrigerator overnight tastes even better the next day.

  Fun Events!
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Kirby School 6-12, Shadow Day 11/20

 

Santa Cruz Waldorf Pre-8, A Walk Through the Grades, 11/16

 

AFE (Alternative Family Education) Play: Robin Hood 11/18

 

Mount Madonna PreK-12, Art & Play in the PreK 11/29, & Campus Tour 12/8

 

Gateway Santa Cruz K-8, School Day Tour 12/5 & Middle School Info Night 12/7

Good Reads!

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Tyson brings the universe down to Earth succinctly and clearly, with sparkling wit, in tasty chapters consumable anytime and anywhere in your busy day.

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John Gottman's unprecedented study of couples over a period of years has allowed him to observe the habits that can make-and break-a marriage. Here is the culmination of that work: the seven principles that guide couples on a path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship.

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Holiday Ice Skating
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  Holiday Ice Skating
Beach Boardwalk
Date: Every day (Nov 11-Jan 7)
Details: Ice skate by the beach, on real ice!
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
Lady Washington Comes to Monterey
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  Lady Washington Comes to Monterey
Lady Washington
Date: Every day (Nov 8-Nov 20)
Details: Now's your chance to sail on the tall ship Lady Washington!
Special Instructions: Monterey, CA-November 8 to November 20 (Nov. 18, BATTLE OF THE PRESIDIO) (Lady Washington)
City: Monterey Phone: 800-200-5239 view all details >>
     
Arboretum Wreath & Gift Sale
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  Arboretum Wreath & Gift Sale
Arboretum at UC Santa Cruz
Date: 11/18/2017 from 10:00am to 4:00pm
Details: This is the only collection you will find that draws upon the Arboretum's rare and extraordinary succulents and dried plants.
City: Santa Cruz Phone: 831.427.2998 view all details >>
     
Fall Book Sale
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  Fall Book Sale
Friends of Santa Cruz Public Libraries
Date: 11/18/2017 from 10:00am to 4:00pm
Details: Purchase great-quality, gently-used books at the La Selva Beach Branch Library
City: La Selva Beach Phone: (831)427-7710 view all details >>
     
MOD Community Day
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  MOD Community Day
Santa Cruz Children's Museum of Discovery
Date: 11/18/2017 from 10:00am to 5:00pm
Ages: 2-12
Details: Enjoy a free day at the Santa Cruz Children's Museum of Discovery
City: Capitola Phone: (888) 424-8035 view all details >>
     
Discipline Instead of Punishment
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  Discipline Instead of Punishment
Positive Discipline Community Resources
Date: 11/18/2017 from 10:00am to 12:00pm
Ages: adults
Details: Effective Discipline Instead of Punishment & Fear
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 476-7284 view all details >>
     
MOD Community Day
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  MOD Community Day
Santa Cruz Children's Museum of Discovery
Date: 11/18/2017 from 10:00am to 5:00pm
Ages: 2-12
Details: Enjoy a free day at the Santa Cruz Children's Museum of Discovery
City: Capitola Phone: (888) 424-8035 view all details >>
     
Science Sunday - A Seal Named Patches
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  Science Sunday - A Seal Named Patches
Seymour Marine Discovery Center (at Long Marine Lab)
Date: 11/19/2017 from 1:30pm to 2:30pm
Ages: all ages
Details: A Special Family Friendly Science Sunday
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 459-3800 view all details >>
     
Annual "Messiah" Sing-A-Long
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  Annual "Messiah" Sing-A-Long
Peace United Church of Christ
Date: 12/19/2017 at 7:00pm
Details: A community sing-a-long, open to anyone who would like to raise their voice to sing Handel's legendary "Messiah."
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
Turkey Trot
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  Turkey Trot
Santa Cruz Track Club
Date: 11/18/2017 at 8:00am
Details: Dress like a turkey for the Turkey Trot!
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
 Earthly Colors: A Natural Dye Workshop
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  Earthly Colors: A Natural Dye Workshop
Santa Cruz Museum of Natural History
Date: 11/18/2017 from 11:00am to 1:00pm
Details: Join the Museum for Nature Connections that bring us closer to our surroundings. Learn new skills, visit new places, or discover
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 420-6115 view all details >>
     
Write A Letter to Those Who Serve
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  Write A Letter to Those Who Serve
Libraries - All
Date: Every day (Nov 15-Dec 31)
Details: It's easy to participate and your letter and/or artwork will make some one very happy. Kids are especially encouraged to write.
City: SantaCruz County view all details >>
     
Holiday Art Festival
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  Holiday Art Festival
Aromas Hills Artisans
Date: Every day (Nov 18-Nov 19) from 10:00am to 4:00pm
Ages: All
Details: A great variety of artisans' works... find one of a kind gifts. hot drinks, treats and lunch!
Special Instructions: corner of Rose and Blohm Ave
City: San Juan Bautista Phone: 831-594-0033 view all details >>
     
Holiday Boutique & Raffle
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  Holiday Boutique & Raffle
Watsonville Taiko
Date: 11/19/2017 from 12:00pm to 5:00pm
Details: Jump start your holiday shopping
City: Watsonville view all details >>
     
     
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