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  Santa Cruz Parent Santa Cruz, CA

May 5, 2016
Happy Mother's Day

Positive Discipline: One Word Parenting Tip

Ask Nicole: Taking Care of Yourself As A Parent

Suki: Favorite Picture Books

Bike Week May 6-13

Nicole's Tips
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  Happy Mother's Day

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"If I had a flower for every time I thought of you,
I could walk through my garden forever."
Alfred Lord Tennyson

Happy Mother's Day! May it be special for all you loving moms who keep on striving to be good moms, growing and evolving yourselves and setting good "mom" standards for the children.  We are not perfect, but we try!

Suki's descriptions of favorite picture books makes me want to re-read all of them!

(A May 2016) Cinco-De-MayoWatsonville.jpgCinco de Mayo is a celebration held to commemorate the Mexican Army's unlikely victory over French forces at the Battle of Puebla on May 5, 1862, under the leadership of General Ignacio Zaragoza.  In the United States, Cinco de Mayo is sometimes mistaken to be Mexico's Independence Day-the most important national holiday in Mexico, which is celebrated on September 1.  Regardless of its historical origins, it's fun day to celebrate cultural customs of Mexico.

(A Buttons) Button_Weekend.jpgPlease recommend our newsletter to new friends so they won't miss a few tidbits of wisdom from our author contributors, and as always our many fun events! We cannot fit them all into this newsletter.  There are more on the online calendar.

Have a great weekend and many happy moments! Parmalee

 

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  Positive Discipline: One Word Parenting Tip

(A May 2016) PD_PhoneApp.jpgHave you seen Positive Discipline's Parenting Tool Cards?  They come in hard print 52 card sets or via phone app.  It's an easy way to learn and practice Positive Discipline as you go along your day!

This month, we highlight the tip, One Word: Avoid lecturing and nagging.  Use one word as a kind reminder.  For example... 

1.  "Towel." (for the towel left on the floor)

2.  "Dog." (when the dog has not been fed)

3.  "Dishes." 

4.  "Bedtime."

5.  When agreements are made together in advance, one word is often all that needs to be said.

Positive Discipline Community Resources' (PDCR) mission is to support our community of families, schools, and service providers in learning how to have respectful relationships through the teaching of Positive Discipline.

 

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  Ask Nicole: Taking Care of Yourself As A Parent

By Nicole M. Young, MSW

(Graphics) YogaMomDaughter.jpgI need to practice what I preach. When filling out a "self-care inventory" recently I was surprised and saddened at how often I said, "I used to do that," for many items, including exercising, reading, playing a musical instrument and taking at least one and a half days off each week. It left me feeling heavy and tired.

But it also prompted me to ask why I continually put my self-care on the back burner. It's a question that many parents and caregivers struggle to answer. I can't say I've found the answer, but I can say that I intentionally spent less time working this weekend and more time doing things I enjoy by myself and with others. And the world didn't end. 

Dear Nicole,

My husband and I have a blended family. Together we have four kids (ages 2, 4, 12 and 16). We're involved in their school and extracurricular activities, but we both work full-time and feel like we're pulled in a million directions. I'm exhausted and stressed out, and I think it's rubbing off on the kids. What can I do so that my stress doesn't affect them.     Jeanie

Dear Jeanie,

You are not alone! Feeling exhausted, overwhelmed and stressed is a very common parenting challenge. This is why "taking care of yourself as a parent" is one of the core principles of positive parenting in the Triple P program. It's tempting to put the needs of our children, loved ones or work ahead of our own. However, neglecting our own physical, mental and emotional well-being eventually takes its toll. It's hard to be patient, loving, calm and fair when we're burned out and running on an "empty tank." Taking care of ourselves reduces the stress of parenting and provides a healthy model for our children, who are developing their own tools for coping with everyday stress.

Here are some tips to try: >>>>>>>>>>>>

Nicole Young is the mother of two children, ages 12 and 16, who also manages Santa Cruz County's Triple P - Positive Parenting Program. Scientifically proven, Triple P is made available locally by First 5 Santa Cruz County, the Santa Cruz County Health Services Agency (Mental Health Services Act) and the Santa Cruz County Human Services Department. For more information on Triple P classes and one-on-one sessions, visit http://triplep.first5scc.org

 

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  Suki: Favorite Picture Books

In our house, picture books have a very long life. My thirteen-year-old refuses to get rid of her favorites, still!

Here are a few of the most memorable, with some memories to go along with them.

    Goodnight, Gorilla
    We're a family of words, so what's this book of very few words doing on our list? Someone bought it for us. We would never have bought a book with so few words. Our son became obsessed with it. Once our daughter came along, we introduced it to her and she was similarly entranced. I think it's a combination of things that make this book so wonderful: Excellent illustrations, a bit of naughtiness, lots of tension in the plot even though there are no words. Degen is primarily an illustrator-I just learned that he illustrated the Magic School Bus books, one of my daughter's favorites, and he also did Jamberry below.

     The Napping House
    Like so many picture books, the illustrations make this book. Husband/wife team Audrey and Don Wood clearly do what is so hard for us non-illustrating authors: The text doesn't say anything that the illustrations can't say better. So the text doesn't say what a lovely and weird relationship Granny has with her grandchildren. It doesn't mention how charming and unusual their home is. It doesn't say what time of day it is or that it's raining. (There may be errors here; I am doing this all from memory and my children are now 13 and 17!) But the text adds the rhythm, building with a musical crescendo to the end (I won't add any spoilers here). Beautiful book to look at; wonderful book to read out loud.

    Click for a dozen more of Suki's favorite picture books>>>>>

 

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  Bike Week May 6-13

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For nearly 30 years, Ecology Action has been organizing the Bike To Work program in Santa Cruz County. The program happens every May and October and now represents the largest sustainable transportation event in the region and serves a combined total of over 13,000 residents every year. We look forward to seeing you for our signature Spring Bike Week event from May 6-13, 2016. Check out our Breakfast Site page for info on all your favorite stops across the County! For questions or to request more info contact Emily Gomez at bike2work@ecoact.org

Bike Night First Friday at the MAH

May 6, 2016 @ 5:00 pm - 9:00 pm

Museum of Art & History, 705 Front St, Santa Cruz, CA

(A May 2016) Bike_MAH.jpgFirst Friday Bike Night at the Museum of Art & History represents the kick-off celebration to Bike Week and is hosted by Ecology Action and Bike Santa Cruz County! Bike Night is a family-friendly, inclusive experience for community members to learn about local bike resources and celebrate biking in Santa Cruz. The event features a host of activities including:

  • Free helmet giveaway, helmet stenciling, spin bike art and bike decorating
  • Freestyle trials bike stunt show by Matt Meyer
  • Local artists bike themed art fair, with art and crafts for sale
  • An 8pm Community Bike Ride hosted by Santa Cruz Bike Party. Prizes will be awarded for best decorated bike!
  • Live music from 6:30-9pm

This event is part of Ecology Action's Bike Week. Click here for the full Bike Week schedule.

 
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Mount Madonna PreK-12, Campus Tour 5/11

 

SC Montessori Pre-8, Spring Yard Sale 5/14

 

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Love, Rascal

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Friends of Santa Cruz State Parks
Date: Every day (Apr 19-Jun 30)
Details: Enter to win a 'Let's Cruz' Vacation Package created just for Friends of Santa Cruz State Parks!
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Viva Cinco de Mayo
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Big Sur Camping Trip!
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Adventure Sports Unlimited Adventure Travel
Date: Every day (Oct 2-Oct 5)
Ages: Ages 3 and up
Details: Camp, hike the mountains of the south coast, repose in flowing streams, hunt for jade and jasper, surf, boogie board, and play .
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 458-3648 view all details >>
     
Second Saturday on the Farm
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Ag History Project
Date: The 2nd Sa of every month from 11:00am to 3:00pm
Ages: All
Details: Join us for demonstrations using antique farm equipment, crafts, farm animals, wooden cow milking, water pumps, learning to driv
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Viva Cinco de Mayo
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Dance Party and Celebration
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Date: 05/07/2016 at 7:00pm
Ages: All ages
Details: Come to a dance!
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Camp Seascape Open House
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Camp Seascape
Date: 05/07/2016 from 12:00pm to 4:00pm
Details: The annual Camp Seascape Open House is scheduled for Saturday,
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  Nicole's Tips

Recognize warning signs of stress. People feel and respond to stress in different ways. Stress is often felt as physical pain or discomfort, which can intensify mental and emotional stress, creating a cycle that is difficult to break. Notice if you're experiencing any of these common signs of stress: tense or stiff muscles, headaches, extreme emotions, difficulty sleeping, constant tiredness, problems concentrating, an upset stomach, or frequent illnesses or infections. It might be a sign that your mind and body need a break.

Practice relaxation techniques. Try taking a few slow, deep breaths. Inhale slowly through your nose, pause, then let all the air out and do it again. Or tighten the muscles in one area of your body for 10 seconds, then relax the muscles to relieve the tension. Repeat with a different area of your body, noticing how the tension and relaxation feels each time. Other relaxation techniques include exercising, taking a warm bath, meditating, reading and listening to music. Find a technique that works for you, and practice it every day.

Use affirmations or coping statements. Unhelpful thoughts such as, "I can't deal with this," or "This will never change," might feel true at the time. However, these thoughts usually increase feelings of stress, anxiety, helplessness or hopelessness, and can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Instead, try replacing them with one of these affirmations or coping statements: I can do this. I've gotten through this before. I'm doing the best I can. It's OK to make mistakes. Just breathe. I can only do so much. I will try again tomorrow.

Create quality time for yourself. Resist the urge to tell yourself this is unrealistic or a waste of time. Quality time for yourself can be brief and frequent, much like quality time with children. Find something that makes you laugh, brings you comfort or relieves tension, and do a little more of it each day. It's amazing what a cup of hot tea (or watching a funny cat video) can do for the soul. 

Final Thoughts: Keep trying self-care techniques until you find something that works. This might include seeking help from clergy or professionals who can address various aspects of health and well-being. Taking care of yourself isn't selfish, a sign of weakness or a waste of time. It's the best way to ensure you're present and available for the ones you love.

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