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  Santa Cruz Parent Santa Cruz County

May 3, 2018
Fairy Lanterns

Suki: Return to Basics...MAKING!

There's more... and it's amazing!

The WHALE OF AN AUCTION is open NOW!

Ask Nicole: Preventing Parent Burnout
Fun Events!
Parent burnout continued
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  Fairy Lanterns

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Wildflower Weekend is Saturday May 5, 2018 from 10am to 4 pm and Sunday May 6, 2018 from 10am to 4 pm. Guided hikes at 10am and 1pm on both Saturday and Sunday. The 10am hike is a moderately paced 4.5-mile hike along the Marsh Trail to the Skyline to the Sea Bypass Trail. The 1pm hike is a 1-mile wildflower excursion through multiple habitats along the Hoover Nature Trail.

Santa Cruz Mini MakerFaire promises to be fun and inspiring! Hint: You will be able to see what Cabrillo students are making, like this amazing maker of 3-D prosthetics for kids around the worldSuki helps us see the Maker Faire phenomenon as part of a positive cultural adjustment.

Seymour Marine Discovery Center is a local treasure, one to be visited OFTEN to see amazing creatures from the deep. The ocean lovers who work and volunteer there strive to help us understand our ocean. It takes money to support this endeavor.  We can do our part, and have fun at the same time, by participating in their WHALE OF AN AUCTION. You can bid online for everything from dinners out to a helicopter ride along the coast to a vacation in Hawaii! Check out all the auction treasures online!

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Image: This is calochortus albus, also called white fairy lantern or pink fairy lantern! Thanks to Rancho Del Oso Park Rangers.

 

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  Suki: Return to Basics...MAKING!

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When I think back to cultural trends that happened during my kids' early years, there are a few that stand out as important. Both kids were born after the Web but before the iPhone, and my fellow parents and I have watched as our children's lives took on explorations and dangers literally not dreamt of in our childhoods.

We're Makers

But there were other trends running counter to this relentless pull into the digital future. In our lives, the Maker movement was perhaps the most prominent. In a time when you can buy anything you want with the click of a mouse, people started to value making again. And when people started to value making again, they didn't just value professionally made, "artisanal" goods, though those of course have gained prominence at the same time. People started to value the role of the amateur in our cultural and commercial lives.

Amateur means you do it out of love

As a musician, see this through the lens of what has happened in music. Before the second half of the 20th century, music was in the hands, and voice, of anyone who wanted it. Americans banged on cans, strung strings over cigar boxes, or just yelled out a tune as best they could. Varying by income, culture of origin, and social status, everyone had a piano, a fiddle, an accordion, a steel drum, or a recorder in their house. We had a shared national treasury of folk music, and regional and ethnic music as well. We had our most important American art form, jazz. We had well-funded symphonies in small towns and music in every school.

Then something happened: People started thinking that music was something that professionals did. Music was something you paid a ticket for, bought a disk of, or listened to on the radio. We became consumers. Fewer children had music lessons; fewer families had instruments in their houses.

Enter technology

I have to admit that I never expected to see this trend turn around. But technology, that thing that is turning our kids into zombies by some accounts, has revived music in an unexpected way. While music instruction is still down, folk music-and by that, I mean music that any folk can pick up with the tools available around them-seems to be busting out of its old confines.

Have you ever watched a kid play with Garage Band? How about a simple music app on their phone? Do your kids seek out amateur Youtube videos the way you used to go to the record store to flip through albums?

It's not just music

To me, this is all part of the growing Maker ethic in our culture, a return to the belief that the act of making something has intrinsic worth, even if the product isn't worth anything (monetarily speaking). Take a look at Etsy, at local craft fairs, and at open mics if you want to find passionate amateurs doing something out of love. Read any teaching blog and you'll find discussion of project-based learning (otherwise known as Making).

Oh, yeah, I could be pessimistic

Not everyone is Making. Some kids have turned into zombies controlled by their little devices. Heck, I've had students complain that their parents have turned into zombies. The kids are just fine. Most schools no longer have healthy programs in music, art, home ec, shop-all those places where Making used to happen.

But instead...

I haven't yet visited a local Mini Maker Faire, but this weekend I plan to. My 15-year-old saw a sign and his eyes lit up. "Can we go?" Nothing  like a Maker Faire sign to make a teenager forget to be snarky (at least for a short time)! I'm looking forward to seeing all the stuff that people are getting into these days, along with some presentations by local corporations. From people with graduate degrees down to a kid who made something cool in his garage, we'll celebrate people getting into it and enjoying Making for the process.

Suki Wessling is a local parent who writes fiction and nonfiction about reading, writing, parenting, education, and homeschooling.

 

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  There's more... and it's amazing!

(0 Ads May 2018) MMF_drone.jpgThe great makers of Santa Cruz County range from tech enthusiasts to crafters to homesteaders to scientists to garage tinkerers. They are of all ages and backgrounds. The aim of Maker Faire is to entertain, inform, connect and grow this community.

Zoe Stumbaugh is one of the country's top First Person Drone pilots. She has become a force in the drone community. Check our her awesome Youtube channel too. Zoe will be doing demonstration flights through the Sculpture Garden from 10-12.

(0 Ads May 2018) MMF_ChibiJay.jpgChibiJay Designs uses beautiful, authentic Japanese chiyogami papers that are hand silk screened by artists in Japan to create gorgeous chopsticks, chopstick rests, storage tins, compact mirrors, and wooden bracelets. Maker Judy Mui will be leading origami-folding workshops throughout the day for attendees to try their own hand.

MORE MAKERS>>>

FOOD, DRINKS AND DESSERT provided by Ate3One, Bruxo Food, Sleight of Hand Pizza Oven (and stage performer), Gary's Snappy Dogs, Togo's in Capitola, Spro-Kart (coffee), My Cupcake Corner, The Penny Ice Creamery, Auntie Viv's Shave Ice, and more!

 

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  The WHALE OF AN AUCTION is open NOW!

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This annual charity auction is crucial to the Seymour Marine Discovery Center, the public-serving education center at Long Marine Lab, University of California, Santa Cruz. Because of people like you, thousands of children, families, and people from all walks of life will discover why ocean science is important, now and for the future of the planet.

(0 Ads May 2018) Seymour_Reserve.jpgBid on one-of-a-kind items! Take the elephant seal tour of your lifetime. Explore beekeeping or learn about bats! Bid on spectacular homes in Kauai. Go wine (or champagne or beer) tasting with your besties, enjoy fabulous theater, or head to San Francisco for museums and baseball! Go tidepooling with THE expert. Explore 27 regional parks with free entrance. Learn to dive, go kayaking or whale watching, and how about a new wetsuit? Of course, all of your favorite restaurants are here! By bidding, you're doing good for the ocean and you're treating yourself or your friends to some fun.

UPDATE: Just by registering, you're entered to win a $50 gift certificate from Whole Foods Market. The Seymour Center thanks you a whale of a lot!

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1) Seeing elephant seals during their breeding season at Año Nuevo is one of the great wildlife adventures in North America. You can bid on a special behind-the-scenes tour with a researcher at the Whale of an Auction.

2) Calling all nature lovers for a behind-the-scenes tour with the manager of a hidden reserve. Sip coffee and enjoy delicious bagels with your own group of 12! You can bid on this special experience at the Whale of an Auction.

 

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  Ask Nicole: Preventing Parent Burnout

Ask Nicole: Preventing Parental Burnout

By Nicole M. Young, MSW

Being a parent is hard work, even when you love your kids deeply. In some ways, parenting has gotten easier as my kids have grown older. The days and sleepless nights filled with dirty diapers, tantrums, and shopping-trips-gone-wild are long-gone. I have more energy to enjoy being their mom. In other ways, parenting has gotten harder as they've grown older.

The exhaustion from constantly being "on" when they were little has been replaced by exhaustion from constantly negotiating family rules and trying to figure out when it's time to be involved in their business and when it's time to stay on the sidelines. There have been times over the years when the exhaustion has left me feeling frustrated, ineffective and burnt out as a parent. In those moments, I've had to remind myself it's ok to take a step back and take care of my own needs so that I can step back in and be a positive parent.  

This monthly column provides tips for anyone who is raising children, based on the world-renowned Triple P - Positive Parenting Program, available to families in Santa Cruz County. If you have questions for a future column, email me at triplep@first5scc.org.

Dear Nicole, I enjoy being a mother...most of the time. I work full-time and have three kids under age 10. They're great kids but need a lot from me. My husband is also wonderful, but when he's not working, he just wants to watch TV. Most of the time, I just keep going because I have to. But sometimes I get stressed and lose my temper, and then I feel like a terrible parent, which makes me more stressed and angry and then no one wants to be around me. What can I do to break this cycle?  Luz
Continue for Nicole's suggestions for parent burnout>>>

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Little Garden Patch Farm 5-8yrs, Open House 5/4

 

Santa Cruz Waldorf School Pre-8, Mayfaire 5/5

 

Santa Cruz Montessori Pre-8, Open House 5/5

 

Expedition Academy 5-8, Open House 5/12

 

High School Art Show 4/27-5/20

 

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Santa Cruz Maker Faire
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  Santa Cruz Maker Faire
Gateway School and Cabrillo College
Date: 05/05/2018 from 10:00am to 5:00pm
Ages: All
Details: Come to the Greatest Show (& Tell) on Earth - a family-friendly showcase of invention, creativity, and resourcefulness.
City: Aptos view all details >>
     
Kid's Tool Workshop
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Home Depot
Date: The 1st Sa of every month from 9:00am to 12:00pm
Ages: 5-12
Details: Free kids workshops teach do-it-yourself skills and tool safety
City: Capitola or Watsonville view all details >>
     
Origami Club with Japanese Cultural Fair
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Library Aptos
Date: The 1st Sa of every month (Apr 7-Dec 1) at 1:00pm
Details: performances
City: Aptos Phone: 831- 427-7700 ext. 7665 view all details >>
     
Uniquely Beautiful & Beautifully Unique Parents Support Group
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  Uniquely Beautiful & Beautifully Unique Parents Support Group
Library Boulder Creek
Date: The 1st Th of every month (May 3-Sep 6) from 8:00pm to 9:30pm
Details: Support group for parents and loved ones of children with special needs
City: Boulder Creek view all details >>
     
Citizen Science: A Celebration of Central California Wildlife
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  Citizen Science: A Celebration of Central California Wildlife
Library Central
Date: 05/03/2018 from 6:30pm to 8:00pm
Ages: All
Details: A presentation and Q&A with local experts and researchers in the field discussing life science, ecology, geology, genetics...
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 427-7717 view all details >>
     
Santa Cruz Bluegrass Fair
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  Santa Cruz Bluegrass Fair
Northern California Bluegrass Society
Date: 05/06/2018 from 12:00pm to 6:30pm
Details: Come enjoy a day of bluegrass music --a uniquely American genre
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
GAMBLE - A Mountain Bike Film
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  GAMBLE - A Mountain Bike Film
Rio Theater
Date: 05/03/2018 at 7:00pm
Details: ...talented and charismatic riders outside of the tape, on tracks tailored for madness...
Special Instructions: Registration required
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
2018 Bike Week Schedule :
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Ecology Action
Date: Every day (May 4-May 12)
Details: Find a bike activity to suit your skills!
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
Resurrection
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Santa Cruz County Symphony
Date: Every day (May 5-May 6)
Details: The season concludes with Mahler's awe-inspiring second symphony, a work that established his lifelong view of the beauty of the
City: Santa Cruz County Phone: (831) 239-0442 view all details >>
     
Whale of An Auction
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  Whale of An Auction
Seymour Marine Discovery Center (at Long Marine Lab)
Date: Every day (May 1-May 10)
Ages: ALL
Details: Auction items are already visible, with more being added every day!
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 459-3800 view all details >>
     
Triple P Workshop: Helping Teens Cope With Anxiety
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  Triple P Workshop: Helping Teens Cope With Anxiety
Triple P, Positive Parenting Program
Date: 05/15/2018 from 6:00pm to 7:30pm
Details: Triple P Workshop: Helping Teens Cope With Anxiety
City: Felton view all details >>
     
Free Swim Lessons with Tiffany
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  Free Swim Lessons with Tiffany
Seahorse Swim School
Date: 05/05/2018 from 1:00pm to 3:00pm
Ages: All ages
Details: Free swim lessons Mar 31, April 28, May 5 and June 2
Special Instructions: Mar 31, April 28, May 5 and June 2
City: Aptos Phone: (831) 476-7946 view all details >>
     
May the 4th be with You
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  May the 4th be with You
Library Central
Date: 05/04/2018 from 3:00pm to 5:00pm
Ages: All
Details: May the 4th be with You
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 427-7707 view all details >>
     
JUNIOR POLICE ACADEMY
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  JUNIOR POLICE ACADEMY
Scotts Valley Police
Date: Every day (May 1-Aug 3)
Details: Provides students with alternatives to drugs, violence, and other illegal activities through exciting events and educational pro
Special Instructions: June 18-22, July 9-13, July 30-Aug 3
City: Scotts Valley Phone: 831-440-5656 view all details >>
     
     
  Parent burnout continued

Dear Luz,

I think you just described the daily life of many parents! Being a parent can be extremely rewarding, and it can be extremely demanding, exhausting, and stressful. Many parents experience "parental burnout," especially when they feel a lack of control, overloaded, underappreciated, or isolated. Here are some tips to try:

Develop a self-care routine. This might seem impossible or impractical, but taking care of your needs will make it easier to be calm, patient, and present. Think about activities that make you feel content, relaxed, relieved, or energized - perhaps it's exercising, listening to music, sitting in silence, cooking, or socializing with friends. Try building in time to do at least one of those things every day, even if it's for five minutes at a time. Focus on making it part of your daily routine so that it becomes a habit, like getting dressed or brushing your teeth.

Ask your partner for support. Talk to your husband about the stress you're experiencing. Give him some examples of ways he could support you - helping with chores, watching the kids while you take time for yourself, or helping with morning or nighttime routines - then ask if he's willing to support you in this way. Let him know that getting this type of support is important for your physical and emotional health and will help you be fully present and available for the whole family.

Teach your children to do things independently. It might feel like extra work to teach children how to get dressed, feed themselves, help with chores, or cooperate with each other, but the reward will be worth it when these and other daily tasks require less of your time. Teaching children these skills early in life will also build their confidence and ability to learn new skills and behaviors throughout their lives.

Have realistic expectations and be kind to yourself. Recognize when you're feeling overloaded and resist the temptation to say yes to everything. Remember there's no such thing as a perfect parent or partner, and it's exhausting to try to be everything for everyone. When you're feeling stressed, take some deep breaths and say, "I've got this," or "I will get through this." If you lose your temper, give yourself permission to take a "time out" away from the stressful situation. Take a few deep breaths and tell yourself, "I'm doing the best I can. I will try again."

Final Thoughts: Parental burnout is a real thing. This is why taking care of yourself is one of the core principles of positive parenting. If it feels foreign to put your needs first, start with something small and do it consistently so that taking care of yourself becomes as natural as breathing air.

Nicole Young is the mother of two children, ages 14 and 18, who also manages Santa Cruz County's Triple P - Positive Parenting Program, the world's leading positive parenting program. Scientifically proven, Triple P is made available locally by First 5 Santa Cruz County, the Santa Cruz County Health Services Agency (Mental Health Services Act) and the Santa Cruz County Human Services Department. To find a Triple P parenting class or practitioner, visit http://triplep.first5scc.org.

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