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  Santa Cruz Parent Santa Cruz, CA

March 10, 2016
Glorious Theatre

Ami Chen: Top Six Parenting Tips

Ask Nicole: Parenting in a Digital World

Suki: Healthy Writing Habits for Children
The Kinsey African American Art & History Collection
Parenting In A Digital World
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  Glorious Theatre

(A Mar 16) GoldenTheatre_Stage3.jpgThe historic and beautiful Golden Theatre in Monterey has reopened with a full roster of entertainment, including a very special show for families. Caution. Attending a show in such splendor may awaken a love of theater! We suggest taking the family to see Clifford, The BIG Red Dog, The Musical on Stage. 

"It only takes a little to BE BIG!TM The 'big red dog,' a character beloved for generations, comes to life on stage in a BIG way in this interactive musical! Join Clifford, Emily Elizabeth and all their friends from Birdwell Island as they embark on an adventure filled with singing, dancing and more. Share in the timeless values of Clifford's BIG Ideas: Share, Play Fair, Have Respect, Work Together, Be Responsible, Be Truthful, Be Kind, Believe In Yourself, Be A Good Friend and Help Others - with this musical experience the whole family will love!"

In Ami Chen's article, Tip # 6, which she lists first, rang so true with me and all my "work" with children that I paused as moments of memorable times with children flooded back to me and then eagerly read on for tips 5 through 1.  More than Ami's six tips, is her powerful testimonial to loving and valuing ourselves in our journeys with our children.  Read this today.  You will feel blessed and encouraged!

(A Buttons) Button_Weekend.jpgPlease recommend our newsletter to new friends so they won't miss a few tidbits of wisdom from our author contributors, and as always our many fun events! We cannot fit them all into this newsletter.  There are more on the online calendar.

Have a great  weekend! Parmalee

 

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  Ami Chen: Top Six Parenting Tips

(A Mar 16) AmiChen_Outdoors.jpgFor nearly 20 years, I have worked as a trainer and consultant in schools, and with parents and teachers across the country, and the globe. I have found myself in a broad range of settings, from the inner city, to Native American reservations to the Mississippi Delta, and the upscale suburbs of Silicon Valley.

In my coaching work, I work with young people and their parents, also from all walks of life. And I am mother myself of two girls. So like everyone else on the planet, I am involved in my own intensive learning laboratory called Life.

If I distill everything I have learned, and share now with parents, what follows are the "Top Six" parenting ideas or tips that make the most difference toward promoting positive, healthy parenting.

Please note: these tips run from Six to One, like the David Letterman Top 10. We end up with probably the most important tip, so read on through to the end!

Tip No. 6 Relax! Everything is Out of Control.

 Although we try to, and to some extent do have some control over our lives and our families, the hard truth is that we don't have total control at all-and usually we have much less than we think.

Anything can happen. It is much easier to trust Life and our children when we realize that children have access to an inner wisdom about life they can tap into completely on their own.

This is the same intuitive sense of what's right for us, and what's wrong for us that we ourselves possess (and which we may or may not tap on a regular basis). Parents can work themselves into a frenzy trying to educate their children to be the "best people" they can be. But we forget that the source of their "best-ness" is actually inside of them, and very organic to them. It's OK, and even beneficial to let go of the controls from time to time. Kids need to find the source of their own wisdom and joy for themselves. And it's easier to let go when we know there is a source of, a support for life that lies beyond all of our own personal efforts.

Tip No. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1  ... Continue reading >>>>>>>>

Ami Chen Mills-Naim is author of The Spark Inside and State of Mind in the Classroom: Thought, Consciousness and the Essential Curriculum for Healthy Learning. She co-founded the non-profit Center for Sustainable Change, and directed the National Community Resiliency Project, funded by the W.K. Kellogg Foundation. She has been a global speaker and trainer in Thought-based resiliency and mental wellness work for 20 years, and is a coach, consultant, and mentor based in Santa Cruz, CA.

Her next open class in Santa Cruz, "Stress, Well-Being and Spirituality" is March 26, 1:30-3:30 pm at Santa Cruz Yoga, (402 Ingalls) a by-donation fundraiser for the Center for Sustainable Change.

 

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  Ask Nicole: Parenting in a Digital World

By Nicole M. Young, MSW

I'm dependent on technology. Some days, I spend more time with my phone than I do with my kids (don't judge - they're in school all day). I do the majority of my personal and work-related reading on the internet. In fact, I can't remember the last time I read a whole book (much to the dismay of my mom, who works in a bookstore). And I know my way around social media, which just means I know how to post, like, retweet and pin pretty pictures.

But despite my love for technology, I hate seeing my kids' eyes glued to their screens. And while I enjoy posting pictures of my kids on Facebook, the thought of my kids broadcasting their lives on social media makes me nervous. The "Logical Me" knows I have the parenting tools to teach my children how to be safe in this digital age. The "Emotional Me" just wants to scream, "No!" and go back to reading articles on the internet about the dangers of the digital age.

Dear Nicole,  I'm not on social media, but I have friends who are. One friend recently saw a picture that my son posted on Instagram doing something inappropriate. She thinks I should talk to him about what he's posting online and how that could hurt him someday. I was shocked because I had no idea he was using social media. He's 14, but we've avoided it because of other parents' horror stories. What should I do?       Hana  Read Nicole's answer and advice>>>>>

 

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  Suki: Healthy Writing Habits for Children

One of the hardest things for homeschoolers to work on is writing. We all carry baggage from our own education that colors how we see the writing process. There's always that nagging voice that says that if we don't subject our kids to something similar, we will fail to teach our kids to write well.

I have homeschooled two kids, one of them a natural writer, the other reluctant. I also teach kids writing at Athena's Advanced Academy, and my students come in all flavors. Starting with my own kids, and now even more with my online students, I have rejected the traditional approach to teaching writing. In this post, I will discuss writing strategies for younger (pre-teen) children.

handwritingpenThe tradition: Focus on shortcomings, follow rules

Traditional writing instruction teaches that writing follows rules, and that the teacher's job is to show students where their writing fails. Students are forced to write:

  1. for no purpose
  2. non-creatively
  3. about subjects they have no interest in
  4. without an audience

Then teachers look at the product, point out what's wrong, and tell the students to do it again. The result is bad writing, and kids who hate writing so much they will only produce it under duress.

The new approach: Follow passions, focus on the positive

notebookWhen I started homeschooling, I took cues from homeschoolers and from special education teachers. Homeschoolers said that integrating learning into life made for deeper, more meaningful work. Special education teachers, faced with kids who have such severe shortcomings, have to focus on their students' abilities, whatever they are.

I came across the writing of Patricia Zaballos, who blogs extensively about teaching writing and also wrote a handbook on teaching writing. The crux of her approach is, like special education teachers, to focus on the positive.  Read more>>>

Suki Wessling writes about reading, writing, parenting, education, and homeschooling.

  The Kinsey African American Art & History Collection

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Explore one of the largest private collections of African American art and artifacts.
Date: Every day (Feb 26-May 22)
Ages: All Ages

The Kinsey African American Art & History Collection: February 26th, 2016 - May 22nd, 2016

(A Mar 16) MAH_Dunson-The-Cultivators.jpgThe Cultivators, 2000, Samuel Dunson, Oil on Canvas

Spanning 400 years of history, the Kinsey Collection reflects a rich cultural heritage. Includes work by Romare Bearden, Elizabeth Catlett, Jacob Lawrence, and Richard Mayhew alongside archival material related to Frederick Douglass, Zora Neale Hurston, and Malcolm X.

The MAH is providing free admission to this exhibition for all Santa Cruz County K-12 students, UCSC and Cabrillo College students. Just show your ID at the desk Feb 27-May 22, Tuesday-Sunday, 11-5, to get in for free. Note: Free (A Mar 16) MAH_kinsey_butler_the_boss.jpgAdmission does not apply during Third Friday festivals.

Self-guided tour materials also available for school groups and visitors, Click here to book a self-guided tour.

Presented in partnership with the Santa Cruz County Office of Education, the Art Forum, the UCSC Institute for Humanities Research and Cabrillo College.

Click here to learn more about The Kinsey Collection on their website.


Location: 705 Front St, Santa Cruz Map  Phone: 8314291964 •website Santa Cruz

 

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Mount Madonna PreK-12, Meet us in Aptos 3/10

 

Kirby Chamber Choir & Ariose Singers Concert 3/12

 

Orchard School K-6, Open House 3/15

 

Mount Madonna PreK-12, Campus Tour 3/16

 

Waldorf K-8, A Walk Through the Grades 3/16

 

 

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Santa Cruz County Science & Engineering Fair
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  Santa Cruz County Science & Engineering Fair
Santa Cruz County Office of Education
Date: 03/11/2017 from 5:00pm to 7:00pm
Details: Come see youth's science projects
City: Watsonville Phone: (831) 466-5802 view all details >>
     
The Smithsonian Is Coming!
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  The Smithsonian Is Coming!
San Lorenzo Valley Museum
Date: Every Su, Fri and Sa (Oct 14-Nov 26)
Details: Hometown Teams explores the deep roots of sports in American culture, and shows how we engage in and watch sports to have fun, b
City: Boulder Creek view all details >>
     
Twelfth Night Harp Festival
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  Twelfth Night Harp Festival
Community Music School
Date: 01/07/2017 from 2:00pm to 3:30pm
Ages: all
Details: Santa Cruz Harp Festival
Special Instructions: donations gratefully accepted
City: Aptos Phone: (831) 426-9155 view all details >>
     
Out of Control Can Work!
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  Out of Control Can Work!
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Second Saturday on the Farm
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  Second Saturday on the Farm
Ag History Project
Date: The 2nd Sa of every month from 11:00am to 3:00pm
Ages: All
Details: Join us for demonstrations using antique farm equipment, crafts, farm animals, wooden cow milking, water pumps, learning to driv
City: Watsonville Phone: 831-728-5898 view all details >>
     
Spring Overnight
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  Spring Overnight
Beach Boardwalk
Date: Every day (Mar 24-Mar 25)
Details: Boardwalk Spring Overnight Friday, March 24 - Saturday, March
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 423-5590 view all details >>
     
Meet the Doulas
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  Meet the Doulas
Birthnet
Date: 03/11/2017 from 4:00pm to 6:00pm
Details: Pregnant? Considering a Doula on your birth team?
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
Twelfth Night Harp Festival
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  Twelfth Night Harp Festival
Community Music School
Date: 01/07/2017 from 2:00pm to 3:30pm
Ages: all
Details: Santa Cruz Harp Festival
Special Instructions: donations gratefully accepted
City: Aptos Phone: (831) 426-9155 view all details >>
     
Out of Control Can Work!
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Clifford, the Big Red Dog
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  Clifford, the Big Red Dog
Golden State Fox Theatre
Date: 03/26/2016 at 2:00pm
Details: The 'big red dog,' a character beloved for generations, comes to life on stage in a BIG way in this interactive musical!
City: Monterey Phone: (831) 649-1070 x 21 view all details >>
     
     
  Parenting In A Digital World

Dear Hana, Technology has certainly changed the way we communicate, and social media has both benefits and drawbacks. The decision about whether and when kids are ready for social media will vary in each family. Here are a few tips to help you decide:

Get familiar with social media applications (apps). Many parents distrust social media because of concerns about privacy, cyberbullying, sexting, inappropriate content or the effects on emotional health. The constant - and often exaggerated - updates about people's lives often leaves kids and adults feeling excluded, inadequate, anxious or depressed. Several apps create a layer of secrecy that make it easy for people to do and say things that are hurtful to others or put themselves at risk. Apps such as Yik Yak, Whisper, Kik, and ask.fm allow users to remain anonymous, while apps such as SnapChat create a false sense of security that risky photos and videos disappear after being sent and can't be saved by the receiver. Several of these apps are known for being used to bully others or exchange sexually explicit photos with peers - or strangers!

But not all social media apps are "bad," and not everyone posts inappropriate or hurtful things. The more you know about social media, the more prepared you'll be to talk with your son. Read articles, talk to your friends and their kids, or join a social networking site to get firsthand experience.

Talk with your teen. Ask your son what he knows and what interests him about social media. Share what you've learned about the positive and risky aspects of social media. Ask him what he's noticed among his peers, and what he would do if someone were being cyberbullied or engaging in risky behaviors. Listen closely and stay calm even if you hear answers that surprise or worry you. Having a calm discussion now will let him know he can come to you if there are problems later. His answers will also tell you whether he's ready to follow rules about social media and do "the right thing," even if it's not the popular thing.

Agree on rules and expectations. Discuss which apps he can use and which ones are off limits. Define the difference between posting things that are funny and harmless versus hurtful or dangerous to himself or others. Discuss how you'll monitor his social media activity and what will happen if he's using it inappropriately. Strive to find a balance between reassuring yourself that he's safe and giving him the freedom to have an online social life.

Final Thoughts: There's a saying, "Knowledge is power." This is particularly true about social media. The more you know, the more you can teach your son how to make safe, respectful, appropriate choices - online or in person, with or without you.

Nicole Young is the mother of two children, ages 12 and 15, who also manages Santa Cruz County's Triple P - Positive Parenting Program. Scientifically proven, Triple P is made available locally by First 5 Santa Cruz County, the Santa Cruz County Health Services Agency (Mental Health Services Act) and the Santa Cruz County Human Services Department. For more information on Triple P classes and one-on-one sessions for parents, visit http://triplep.first5scc.org, or contact First 5 Santa Cruz County at 465-2217.

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