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  Santa Cruz Parent Santa Cruz, CA

January 14, 2016
Positivity!

Steve: Magical Confidence

Ask Nicole: Positive Parenting Awareness Month

A Science Topic for Dinner with the Children
Celebration of Dr. Martin Luther King
Ask Nicole continued
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  Positivity!

(A Buttons) Button_Weekend.jpgI'm fighting a cold! You too?!  I'm gobbling vitamin C and going through boxes of tissues.  Time for chicken soup with lemon and garlic.  I like how Steve handles children and toy grabbing/sharing.  There are some notable world "leaders" who could benefit from similar lessons, but will they?  The great lessons from Dr. Martin Luther King will be celebrated locally.  Volunteer to celebrate  Martin Luther King Day!  It's Positive Parenting month.  We're all trying on our local micro-levels.

"Do you know someone whose child isn't excited about school?

Let them know about our school listings and introductory descriptions of schools in Santa Cruz County. There, you'll learn about each school's philosophy and guiding principles.   It's a fortunate child who is excited to go to school each day.  Visit schools; Ask questions; Listen.  Talk together about how to get your child ready for the future.  Open houses are posted in our online calendar and in the School Corner of our weekly newsletter."

Please recommend our newsletter to new friends so they won't miss a few tidbits of wisdom from our author contributors, and as always many fun events!

Parmalee

 

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  Steve: Magical Confidence

(A Jan_16) Child-taking-toy-300x250.jpgMy kindergarten group one year included a tall, older boy named "Noah." Noah was six-years-old. One day Noah noticed one of the other children was playing with a toy that Noah liked. I watched Noah walk over, grab the toy, and tug it away from the other boy. Noah then went to the other side of the room leaving the other boy teary-eyed.

Standing between me and Noah was a student teacher who was spending 3 weeks in my kindergarten. She was facing Noah and I watched for a minute or so to see if she could help resolve the situation. I could see her tensing up wanting to do or say something but she did not.

Not wanting the situation to be prolonged, I went over to Noah with outstretched hand, palm up. I didn't say anything. Noah looked at me, sighed and handed me the toy. Then I went over to the boy who had started with the toy and handed it to him. At the same time I spoke, loudly enough for Noah to hear across the room, "It is Sam's turn now. Noah can have a turn next."

That's all I said and did, and I resumed the activity I had been doing with some other children. The situation was resolved. Harmony was restored. Read the rest, and also, help Steve solve a mystery!>>>>>>

Steve Spitalny, local author, speaker and experienced teacher of young children, is available for Parent and Teacher Mentoring and Consulting, in-person, or via skype or phone. Email for details to: stevespit@gmail.com

 

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  Ask Nicole: Positive Parenting Awareness Month

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By Nicole M. Young, MSW

Happy New Year! January has been designated as the fourth annual Positive Parenting Awareness Month in Santa Cruz County by the Board of Supervisors. As in years past, I'm using this month's column to reflect on the importance of positive parenting and encourage families to use local resources that support parents, such as the Triple P - Positive Parenting Program. If you have a parenting question for next month's column, please email me at triplep@first5scc.org.

Raising children to become confident, capable, independent human beings is the most important and fulfilling job anyone can have in their lifetime - even more important than becoming a famous athlete, a Nobel prize-winning scientist or the President of the United States, in my opinion. Sure, it's a never-ending, around-the-clock, stressful, thankless job that doesn't offer sick time or overtime pay. And yes, parenting comes with a lifetime supply of fears and worries about how to ensure children survive each new stage of life and make it to adulthood. But becoming a parent - whether it's a biological, foster or adoptive parent, grandparent, other relative or family friend raising a child - is a life-changing experience.

(A Jan_16) PositiveParenting2.jpgThe importance of positive parenting cannot be underestimated. Decades of research confirm that a child's relationships and experiences early in life shape the developing brain and lay the foundation for future social, emotional, physical and intellectual development. The quality of parenting and care-giving throughout a child's life is one of the most powerful predictors of long-term health and development. Children who experience responsive, nurturing care-giving in safe, engaging environments are able to learn, grow and thrive. Positive parenting builds healthy brains, enabling children to develop the skills to communicate, solve problems, manage emotions and make healthy choices throughout life.

Unfortunately, not all children have the same opportunity. A growing body of research tells us that...continue>>>

Nicole Young is the mother of two children, ages 12 and 15, who also manages Santa Cruz County's Triple P - Positive Parenting Program.

 

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  A Science Topic for Dinner with the Children

(A Jan_16) Bee_Native.jpgNative Bees Are In Trouble

There have been many stories of honey bees disappearing from hives. This has been labeled "Colony Collapse Disorder." Researchers immediately got to work to look at the possibility of using native bees to do the same fertilization for farmers.

A new study from University of Vermont has mapped native bees in the US and it seems to indicate that they are also declining.

Native bees are those bees native to an area that aren't introduced bees - like honey bees in the US. Native bees are extremely efficient at fertilizing certain crops - mostly native species. Examples in the US are cherries, blueberries and cranberries. There are 20,000 species of native bees all over the world and only 7 species of honey bees. Many native bees are solitary and most don't sting. Learn more>>>>>

Christine Cockey is a local mom and scientist who makes science easier to understand for all of us!  For more science, visit her here.

  Celebration of Dr. Martin Luther King


Resource Center For Nonviolence
A Youth Day, Gospel Night, and a reading of King's letters from the Birmingham jail.
Date: Every day (Jan 16-Jan 17)
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Martin Luther King, Jr.'s message of equality, perseverance and pacifism is one everyone can appreciate and benefit from.

 

This two-day celebration of Dr. King will honor the civil right leader through a Youth Day, Gospel Night, and a reading of King's letters from the Birmingham jail.

Saturday January 16th 1­-4 PM YOUTH DAY: Celebrating Young Leaders w/ Project ReGeneration
Live Performances, Food, Activities, Fun Photobooth, Raffle for a FREE SKATEBOARD & more!! Youth, teens, and young adults from all over the county welcome at the RESOURCE CENTER FOR NONVIOLENCE, 612 Ocean St., Santa Cruz, CA for more info call 831.423.1626

Saturday January 16th 7-­9 PM Gospel Night
Be moved by a powerful array of inspiring songs from Santa Cruz Community Gospel Group and local soloists! $10­20 Sliding scale, available only at the Door RESOURCE CENTER FOR NONVIOLENCE, 612 Ocean St., Santa Cruz, CA Info: 831.429.2266

Sunday January 17th 3-­4:30PM Group Reading of L​etter from a Birmingham Jail​​
A read­-through and discussion of the powerful letter King wrote from jail. Drop In! At RESOURCE CENTER FOR NONVIOLENCE, 612 Ocean St., Santa Cruz, CA 831.423.1626

Monday, January 18th All Day A Day ON for Martin Luther King Jr. holiday-A day ON instead of a day off!
The volunteer center is offering service opportunities in the spirit of beloved community! For more info: ​Volunteer Center of Santa Cruz County 831­427­5070 x 117 connect@scvolunteercenter.org www.scvolunteercenter.org

 For more information contact Irene O'Connell irene.cj.oconnell@gmail.com (818) 383- 2426

 

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Mount Madonna PreK-12, Art & Play in Pre & K 1/7  & Campus Tour 1/13

 

Santa Cruz Waldorf School PreK - 8, A Walk  Through the Grades 1/13

 

College Planning Talk 1/16

 

Gateway School K-8, Middle School Information Night 1/21 & Open House 1/23

 

Kirby School 5-12, Open House 1/30

 

All School Events

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Ongoing Library Events for All Ages

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Only 350 tickets are available for An evening with author Julie Lythcott Haims on "How to Raise an Adult." Aptos High, Gateway School and Pacific Collegiate School are partnering to bring former Stanford University Dean and renowned author, Julie Lythcott-Haims, to Santa Cruz County to speak about her new book at Aptos High School theater.  Tickets are available for $10/each at SeatYourself.

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Highlights from the NUMU Permanent History Collection.
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  Highlights from the NUMU Permanent History Collection.
New Museum
Date: Every Su and Sa (Jan 7-Jan 29)
Details: In the spirit of celebrating our local history and its connection
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Guided Elephant Seal Walks Start Dec 15
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  Guided Elephant Seal Walks Start Dec 15
State Park Ano Nuevo
Date: Every day (Oct 25-Mar 31)
Ages: All: (Lots of walking)
Details: 3 mile hike over sand and sloping terrain to see thousands of elephant seals, including newborn pups, their mothers, and bulls
Special Instructions: Dec 15 - Mar 31
City: Pescadero Phone: 800.444.4445 view all details >>
     
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Safely Home Car Seat Fitting Stations
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  Safely Home Car Seat Fitting Stations
Dominican Hospital
Date: 01/23/2016 from 9:00am to 1:00pm
Details: Car Seat Fitting Station ~ Did you know that 75% of car seats are installed incorrectly?
Special Instructions: Corner of Soquel Drive & Paul Sweet Road
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 462-7266 view all details >>
     
Lego & Duplo Fun!
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Library Boulder Creek
Date: Every Wed from 1:00pm to 2:30pm
Details: Join us on Wednesday afternoons for some building fun! Children learn
City: Boulder Creek view all details >>
     
Minecraft at Garfield Park Library
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Library Garfield
Date: Every Wed from 2:00pm to 3:30pm
Ages: 8-18
Details: Minecraft @ GP (2:00 PM-3:30 PM) Minecraft with
City: Santa Cruz Phone: 831-427-7709 view all details >>
     
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Victorian Tea Party
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Quail Hollow Ranch
Date: 01/31/2016 from 1:00pm to 3:00pm
Ages: 5 and up
Details: Come to a tea party the old-fashioned way!
City: Felton Phone: (831) 335-9348 view all details >>
     
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Wednesday Night Cinema Society
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UCSC Astronomy & Physics
Date: Every Wed (Jan 6-Mar 9) at 7:00pm
Details: Fascinating film series, Theme: The Urban Landscape
Special Instructions: Communications Building
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Santa Cruz Chocolate Festival
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UCSC Women's Club
Date: 01/17/2016 from 1:00pm to 4:00pm
Ages: All ages
Details: Chocolate vendors are preparing to nourish your souls and treat your taste buds with their culinary delights.
Special Instructions: 6 tastings for $15
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 426-0626 view all details >>
     
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Resource Center For Nonviolence
Date: Every day (Jan 16-Jan 17)
Details: A Youth Day, Gospel Night, and a reading of King's letters from the Birmingham jail.
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  Ask Nicole continued

...the absence of positive parenting puts children at greater risk for developing physical, mental, emotional, behavioral and learning problems throughout life. Although learning to cope with stress and hardships is an important and unavoidable part of every childhood, repeated or prolonged exposure to "Adverse Childhood Experiences" (or ACEs) - such as physical or emotional abuse, chronic neglect, a caregiver's mental illness or substance abuse, a parent in prison, exposure to family violence or the accumulated effects of poverty - can disrupt children's developing brains and impair lifelong health and well-being. "Without adequate adult support [and] early intervention, exposure to ACEs and toxic stress can lead to an intergenerational cycle of instability and poor outcomes in core areas such as education, health and well-being, and economic security," according to Ascend, a policy program of the Aspen Institute.

It sounds frightening, right? The good news is that positive parenting helps children develop healthy responses to "normal" levels of stress and provides a buffer that can prevent or minimize the harmful effects of ACEs.

So what is positive parenting? It's an approach to parenting that builds positive relationships and communication within families, with the goal of promoting children's healthy development and teaching them important social, emotional and life skills. In the Triple P - Positive Parenting Program, positive parenting is defined by five principles:

1.      Ensure children have a safe, interesting environment. Safe, interesting environments and activities activate children's curiosity and creativity, and provide opportunities for them to move, play, explore, discover and experiment. This is how children learn and develop skills.

2.      Create a positive learning environment. Parents can help their children feel safe to explore and learn new behaviors and skills by noticing their efforts, giving positive attention and descriptive praise, and modeling healthy, appropriate behaviors.

3.      Use assertive discipline. Discipline is not the same as punishment. Assertive discipline teaches children new, more appropriate behaviors in a calm and consistent manner, helping children learn to accept responsibility for their behaviors, become aware of the needs of others, and develop self-control.

4.      Have realistic expectations. Every child is unique and develops at a different rate. Problems can occur when parents expect too much too soon, or expect their children to be perfect. It's important to understand what is age-appropriate (feasible) to expect at various stages of childhood. It's also important for parents to have realistic expectations of themselves. There is no such thing as a perfect parent or a perfect child.

5.      Take care of yourself as a parent. Parenting is easier when our own physical, social, emotional and intellectual needs are being met. Being a positive parent does not mean that you have to be present for every waking moment of your child's life. Parents need to take care of their own needs first so that they can be patient, consistent and available to meet their children's needs.

Final Thoughts: Being a positive parent doesn't mean being a perfect parent. After all, learning from mistakes is an important life skill for everyone to master. But positive parenting has lifetime impacts on health and well-being. Being a positive parent is the most important job imaginable.

Nicole Young is the mother of two children, ages 12 and 15, who also manages Santa Cruz County's Triple P - Positive Parenting Program.

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