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February 24, 2012

Help for Adoptive Families
Santa Cruz County Foster Care and Adoption
Suki: Our Friend Who Moved in the Other Day

Viva: Don't Forget the Fun Money
Pam : Little House, Big Month?
This Week
Clam Chowder Cookoff at the Boardwalk, Saturday, Feb. 25
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(Photos General) Garden_HerbsinPot.jpgA friend suggested that I need to stop working on Thursdays because my WI FI doesn't function on Thursdays plus my dsl line keeps going off!  Actually Wednesdays have been spotty also.  I kind of like that approach, especially when the garden beckons or an exhibit at a museum shows up.  It's much better than "the dog ate it".  Now you know why the newsletters have been delayed.

"New spring classes and summer camps are in the Class/Camp Calendar Keep checking back for new entries."

Dr. Daniel Siegel's talk was fascinating.  If you were unable to attend, you can learn more about his work here.  His book is titled The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind, Survive Everyday Parenting Struggles, and Help Your Family Thrive.

Are you going to the chowder cookoff?  I'm partial to New England style chowder and once had some at the Jared Coffin House on Nantucket Island, oh yum!  I shall be getting a tasting kit, but it's hard to imagine anyone's chowder measuring up to Jody's of Fresh Prep Kitchens.  Go online and order a quart or two!

Pros and Cons abound about a potential new charter school in Santa Cruz.  It's good to see parents passionate about education. Often it is so hard to step into the other guy's shoes.  By the way there is a variety of perspectives on education here.

Have a spring-like weekend, Parmalee

  Help for Adoptive Families

(Photos General) AnnaDasbach.jpgCan we just be a family and embrace the fact that we created it, not by biology and genetics, but by love and a desire to be together?

by Anna Dasbach, M.A.

Parenting is not always easy and many parents seek out help or parenting books and classes to become better parents. For those of us who have adopted, especially internationally, many of the books and resources don't apply.

Our families were formed under different circumstances. In order for us to be families, our children had to suffer a tremendous loss: the loss of their birth mother, birth families, and for those adopted internationally, their birth- culture. Many adoptive parents come to adoption after failed attempts to conceive and thus have had to come to terms with the loss of having a biological child. Even if adoption was the parents' first choice, the child did not have a choice and will need to be guided through the process of grieving the losses she/he encountered. 

As adoptive parents we are often told by well meaning friends who have raised biological children, that they can relate or have had similar problems.  As one friend recently posed it to me: "So what if there was a different start in life, she's got wonderful parents now and a good life."

And yes, while this statement is very true, it does not negate the impact of my daughter's beginning of life and the specific things I learned to provide her with to support her ability to mitigate the effects of early trauma.

Owing to newly focused research on brain development and the effects of trauma on the developing brain, we can now talk more clearly about the need to take a different approach when raising children who were adopted and thus had to face early separation from their birth mothers. This early loss, even if the child has been adopted at birth, can be experienced as trauma to the newborn. The sudden loss of the familiar heartbeat, voice and smell can be jolting to the feeling of security in the infant.

For infants, as in my daughter's case, who were left on a street corner even for a short time, the early separation is experienced as life threatening. Some adopted children experienced multiple care- takers or faced neglect during the early months or years of their lives that created more trauma and different ways of learning to view their world and their lives....  continued>>>

 

Anna Dasbach, M.A., Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, offers confidential, small groups for adoptive parents and sees clients: children, adolescents, couples, families and individuals in her private practice in Santa Cruz. She can be reached at 831-566-8077 or through her website: balancedfamily-therapy.com

  Santa Cruz County Foster Care and Adoption

(Photos General) AdoptionFamily.jpgThe Adoptions and Foster Care Programs are part of Family and Children's Services, a division of the County of Santa Cruz, Human Services Department. We invite you to explore our website and hope you will contact us soon.

Each year in our community over 250 children are removed from their families due to abuse and neglect. While many children are able to safely return home, many cannot.

You can help by either providing a loving temporary foster or permanent adoptive home to a child need. Teens and sibling groups are especially in need.

Upcoming Orientations: March 7 & April 4

Four Ways to Change a Life

  • Be a Foster Parent and open your heart and home to a child in need. Training is available.
  • Be an Adoptive Parent and provide a permanent, loving home to a foster child through adoption.
  • Be a Court Appointed Special Advocate, CASA, to advocate for a foster child's best interests inside and outside of the courtroom. Call (831) 761-2956.
  • Or you can join the Foster Parent Association, call (831) 426-9673.

Family Resource Specialist, Anastasia Torres-Gil
Family and Children's Services
Call (831) 345-2700 or e-mail fostercare@fostercare4kids.com

  Suki: Our Friend Who Moved in the Other Day

(Photos General) SukiRedHead_138.jpgWe're starting to get a little tired of it all: the midnight feedings, the neediness, the scratching and scrabbling, the nocturnal rambling.

It's like we have a new baby in the house... but wait, we don't have a new baby in the house. We have a relatively new pet, but he only bugs the girl he sleeps with. Our son, at 13, is finally (usually) sleeping through the night.

This is like the baby we didn't ask for and we didn't know was coming: We've got a lodger in the house, and he (or she) is not paying rent. On top of that, he's a midnight partier.

I vote for "he."

"He" is the new friend who has taken up residence in our wall. Not just any wall, mind you. We've heard them in the roof, in the corner of our office. But fer crying out loud, didja have to choose the wall at the head of our bed?

I was awoken last week to the sound of ripping....continued

 

 

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  Viva: Don't Forget the Fun Money

(Graphics) LemonGirl.jpgWe have a very strict monthly budget for all of our spending, for the simple reason that if we didn't limit our spending very carefully then we would be running in the negative each month. But, we have a few tricks up our sleeves to avoid feeling deprived, and one of those tricks is budgeting for fun money. Before I get to that, let me describe our budget- it's comprised of monthly spending limits on things like groceries, dining out, gas, and shopping, plus estimates for recurring payments like garbage pick-up, electricity bill, gymnastics classes, Netflix subscription, cell phone bill, retirement contributions, etc. Each month we also transfer money into savings "funds" for things like gifts, travel expenses, and yearly expenses (insurance, solar panel maintenance, property tax, computer anti-virus software, and other bills that come up once a year).


Anyway, back to the budget- I use an Excel spreadsheet that adds up all of these monthly expenses. I also have a column for our monthly income, and I make sure that the expenses aren't more than the income. Usually, the end result is about $5- in other words, as long as we restrict our spending to the pre-set limits, we'll have $5 left over at the end of each month. That's not very exciting, and definitely won't buy me lunch when a friend spontaneously invites me out. So... what do we do to make that spontaneous lunch a guilt-free reality? We've set up...  continued

  Pam : Little House, Big Month?

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"Any intelligent fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more violent. It takes a touch of genius - and a lot of courage - to move in the opposite direction." - E.F. Schumacker

The house in which we live isn't very big, about 1100 square feet. There isn't any private space outside of the bedrooms and baths, just one big open room. It's worked well for us and I actually prefer a small space for a number of reasons. The first, most obvious, is that it's easier to keep clean. If I lived in a 2 story home with a couple thousand square feet, it would be a hot mess!
Another reason is that when I have lived in a large home, my family members tend to go off into their own world. As we live now, I get to enjoy the music that they listen to, be involved in conversation with them, and just be closer, in general. And that's a good thing!

When my kids were ages 0-6 we lived in a house that was about 800 square feet. There was 1 bedroom that fit a queen sized bed (with just enough room to walk around and get in it) and a dresser. The other room was 10×12 and had an old-fashioned small closet. We were 4 kids, plus 1 that visited on the weekend, and 2 adults. It not only worked, but was cozy, happy and tidy. In a small house, organization is critical! I had the kids in bunk beds with a trundle for the weekend kid. My 14 month old was in her crib and my newborn slept in a basket on my dresser. Each of the kids had 2 small storage boxes, one for toys and one for sock, undies, hair ties, etc... It sounds crazy, but we had everything we needed and it was a very sweet time in my life.

"As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler; solitude will not be solitude, poverty will not be poverty, nor weakness weakness." - Henry David Thoreau

Recently, my family had the "opportunity" to... continued >>>

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Bay Federal $1.000 Scholarship Applications Deadline 2/24

 

Mount Madonna Pre-12, Miss Representation movie screening. Free 2/26

 

Santa Cruz Waldorf K-8, Kindergarten Open House 3/3


Santa Cruz Montessori Pre-8, Open House 3/4


Coastal Community Preschool, Hand-Jive 3/5


Santa Cruz Children's School K-5, Open House 3/6

 

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Springhill School

Advanced K-8 Education

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Spring Hill is a private school where the talents of bright, motivated and gifted children are recognized, nurtured and developed to their full potential. The school's accelerated and enriched curriculum supports academic success and encourages a spirit of inquisitiveness and creativity.

Please visit us!

831.427.2641

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Gymnastics Learning Center
Adult and Teen Classes

 

Learn to move like a gymnast or just look like one!

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This class for 12 yr olds to Adults is designed to get you movin' and flippin' into shape utilizing the fundamentals of gymnastics:

Strength; Agility; Power; Flexibility; and FUN!

6pm-7:30pm
M & W w/ Coach Alan
T & Th w/ Coach Miki


Special discounted UNLIMITED pricing: $75/month

713.5954

2608 Chanticleer Av

Santa Cruz

Classes for Foodies

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Call or email Parmalee for more information.


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 Clam Chowder Cookoff at the Boardwalk, Saturday, Feb. 25

(Logos Event Calendar) ClamChowder_2012.jpgJoin the fun and excitement as talented chefs from throughout the West Coast compete for the glory of the BEST CLAM CHOWDER! More than just a culinary competition, the fun event has featured participants dressed as scuba divers, mermaids, and even as a Clam Fairy.

The competition features two divisions: Individual and Professional

Top awards include cash prizes, round-trip tickets courtesy of United Airlines, and more. Plaques will be awarded in each division for BEST CLAM CHOWDER in both Boston and Manhattan categories as well as the People's Choice and Most Original Team.

Admission is free; visitors may purchase tasting kits ($9) to sample the clammy concoctions.

10:00am - Cooking starts & Tasting kits go on sale
1:00pm - Public tasting begins
4:00pm - Winners announced

For more information please contact the Chowder Committee: 831-420-5273.The Cook Off is an important fund-raiser for the City of Santa Cruz Parks and Recreation Department. (Last year more than $55,000.00 was raised.)

Beach Boardwalk Rides are open Saturday & Sunday, 11am-6pm!

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City of Santa Cruz
Date: Every day (Feb 25-Feb 26)
Details: Join the fun and excitement as talented Chefs from throughout the West Coast compete for the glory of the BEST CLAM CHOWDER!
Special Instructions: Each Tasting Kit Includes 6 taste tickets, spoon, cup, and a People's Choice ballot.
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Pruning Small Trees and Shrubs
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  Pruning Small Trees and Shrubs
Santa Cruz County Parks - Quail Hollow Ranch
Date: 09/25/2016 from 10:00am to 12:00pm
Ages: 16+
Details: learn key pruning principles and techniques that will help keep your garden looking great
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Annual Quilt Show
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Pajaro Valley Quilters
Date: Every day (Feb 27-Feb 28) from 10:00am to 5:00pm
Ages: All
Details: Over 300 quilted items on display
Special Instructions: Sat 10-5 & Sun 10-4
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Banff Mountain Film Festival World Tour
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UCSC Recreation
Date: Every day (Feb 23-Feb 26) from 7:00pm to 10:00pm
Details: Ignite your passion for adventure, action & travel!
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