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February 10, 2011
from the Editor
Lorraine Pursell: 6 Strategies to Support Your Child's Success in School
Suki's Blog: Choosing Schools

This Week
Meet A Peregrine Falcon
Ode to Love
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There have been occasions at the dentist's when I found myself thinking "I'd rather be giving birth."  I place my arms on the armrests, tell myself to relax, take a mental trip to favorite vacation spots, and shortly realize that my hands are clenched.  I'm not one for meds, but I do put up with those dastardly novocaine needles for the sake of a less intense experience.  I want a dentist to tell me "This is what I'm doing now.  Tell me if you feel uncomfortable.  It will take about two minutes."  And I want them to remove stuff and extra saliva quickly!  It's no wonder parents want a kind, gentle, communicative and helpful dentist for their children's early experiences.  So dear parents, please drop us an email and tell us who is your favorite family dentist and why!  We would like to share that information and will "anonymize" your name.

A reminder: if you are interested in what science has learned about brains and parenting, you will want to attend Dr. John Medina's talk on "Brain Rules: 12 Principles for Surviving and Thriving at Work, Home, and School.   You can learn more by going to his website.  It's fascinating.  It's free, but you must make areservation.  Find out how here.

The Events Calendar is filling with way too many good choices.  Such a nice dilemma!  Remember you can select a category that especially interests you, such as School Events, Gardening and Farmers Markets, Park Activities, et.al.

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  Lorraine Pursell: 6 Strategies to Support Your Child's Success in School

(Site Photos) LorraineLowRes.jpgStrategy 1: Have fun with facts

This gives your student a two-fold edge: they'll feel more powerful and fluid in math and have higher confidence because of it; they'll start the second half of the year ahead of those who did nothing. Make it a family affair. Dust off the old flash cards and copy math fact sheets. Let your kids quiz you! Time your first go at the math sheets and try to beat your own time. Any improvement is encouraging. Do this with sight words, definitions and history facts, too.

Strategy 2: Turn homework misery into homework happiness

Make it a family deal. Homework is lonely and not very fun, so be at the table and do your bank statements, answer emails and pay bills. Put out a plate of cookies. When your child needs help you're right there to hedge their frustration! I DON'T recommend putting your child in their room to do homework - this is just an opportunity to get distracted and off-task.

Strategy 3: Train your family about "Our Quiet Time"

Introduce a tradition in your family. After school, everyone's quiet and does their work. Your student has their supply box and so does your younger child who's learning to keep quietly busy and respect the family's needs with this routine. When homework is completed and checked, suggest that your student puts their backpack in the car so there's no rushing around in the morning.

Strategy 4: Do homework right after school

If you belong to the 80% (my estimation) of parents getting grief about doing homework, then hit the books right after school in a pleasant, quiet, well-lit environment while you bring the snack. Or find a homework club where they actually get work finished and checked for accuracy. You can also send them to a private tutoring practice where they are well-supported.

Strategy 5: Get to know your child's smart friends

Have a study buddy over. Make your place the "hang out'. You may be out a couple grand in pizzas over the course of your child's life, but YOUR house is where kids come, and you get to know your child's friends. And have them get 2 or 3 phone numbers of the smartest kids in each class - if your son or daughter wrote the wrong page number, you have someone to call for the correct information. And let's face it - sometimes we don't know how to do the math problems; smart friends can help with this, too.

Strategy 6: Start your own homework club at your house

Invite the neighbor kids over to do their work. Make it a community and involve other parents. Whether they want to be involved or not, invite their kids any way. You can all pitch in for food, rotate houses and rotate parents as tutors. Collect money for a college student who can also help you supervise. The magic is in collecting a group of parents who care about their kids and are putting their actions where their words are.

I want to hear YOUR inspired ideas, and if you need a hand I'm here for you. Email me: . Blessings to you in your Greatest Job On Earth!  To view video clips with more information on this topic, go to www.lorrainepursell.com. Since 1995 Lorraine Pursell, MA, BCET has served families, kids, parents and individuals with family counseling and educational therapy.

  Suki's Blog: Choosing Schools

(Site Photos) SukiRedHead_138.jpgThe Public/Private School Choice - part one

A correspondent asked me to weigh in on the choice that many of her friends are making right now: public or private school for kindergarten. Our children have gone both to public and to private schools, so I guess I do have a perspective on that. And when I interview parents, teachers, and administrators, I learn a lot more about the experiences in their schools. I'll try to sum up what I've learned without offending anyone, but if you're ready to be offended when your choice is criticized, perhaps you just need to stop reading now!  read more >>>>>

 

Public/Private Choice Revisited: High School

One of my correspondents let me know that my private/public school piece a few days ago, though it was written with families with younger children in mind, was very helpful to her in thinking about the high school choice for her son.

In many ways, the issues are the same. But then again, you're talking about a teenager, so it's complicated in a whole different way.

Here are many of the issues that have come up in talks with parents and teachers of high school students: read more >>>>>

 

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 Meet A Peregrine Falcon

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Sat, 2/12,10am


The peregrine falcon population's decline to near extinction, and then recovery due to conservation biology efforts has been hailed as history's best example of a wildlife management success story. Glenn will tell this story using a tame peregrine and slides that illustrate how these rare birds are bred in large aviaries, climb to their nests on high cliffs, and raise young in a lab for release into the wild.

Glenn R. Stewart the director of the UC Santa Cruz Predatory Bird Research Group with offices at the campus' UC Long Marine Laboratory. Stewart teaches the course, "Peregrine Falcon Recovery: A Case Study in Conservation Success" at UC Santa Cruz.  Location & Details

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  Ode to Love

by Starshine Roshell

(Site Photos) StarshineinPink.jpgIt was forever ago, I know. But not so long ago that I've forgotten.

The feelings trickle back through me when I hear Jane's Addiction, or catch a glimpse of your thrift-store wingtips at the back of the closet. If I close my eyes and remember, the sensations flood right back to the surface:

*That fluttery-gut feeling of our earliest days together. The intoxicating cocktail of elation, lust and panic. The sheer shock of being adored. And the profligate peace of staying in bed till 2, then venturing out for a sloppy three-dollar breakfast, inhaled while holding hands.

We used to do everything holding hands. Drive. Sleep. Shower. As if we were afraid these extraordinary feelings would slip away if we let go to scratch an itch ...

We don't hold hands much anymore. Though we share a home now (and hallelujah, a still-sizzlin' boudoir), casual contact is harder to come by. A peck on the cheek as we rush out the door, a quick shoulder rub standing at the stove, a semi-conscious pre-dawn spoon. I can't remember the last time we stayed in bed past 8 a.m., fingers entwined.

Of course I miss it. I miss the dopey glee and oddly pleasant ache of dewy new romance. I'll bet you do, too.

But we had those things already. We celebrated those Valentine's Days and - ahem, if memory serves - we celebrated them good.

So today let's toast the rest of this relationship. The part we didn't see cooking: The considerable cupcake of marriage beneath the flashy frosting of courtship.

The fact is I don't swoon for guys in bands, or motorcycle jackets, anymore. Which is perfect because you're not one, and don't wear them, anymore. Blame maturity, that old killjoy, but it isn't rebellion, showmanship or the tortured soul of an artist that turns me on now. It's compassion, courage and capability. And baby, you got "em.

I get a gut-twisting crush on you every time you fix something: Internet router. Rear-view mirror. Clogged toilet. I don't know how to do those things. I've tried and I can't. If you weren't around, I would literally have to call a plumber or flirt with our neighbor just to get someone to plunge the loo. Thank you for not making me do that.

I cherish the way you make a point of saying, "Hi, beautiful" when I'm sick with the flu and have tissues stuffed up my nose because I got tired of blowing it. And the way you grit your teeth and let me put my utterly bloodless feet up against your warm legs when I skitter into bed at night. Sometimes you whimper, or explain, "You know how good that feels to you? That's how bad it feels to me." But you never push me away.

Never.

Not when I'm crabby. Or whiny. Or weepy. Not even when you really should.

I adore that you don't like dancing, but you love dancing with me. And that you're always the funniest guy in the room, and nobody but me knows it. And that you don't notice my wrinkles, or at least say you don't notice, which is the exact same thing as far as I'm concerned.

Young love may promise the thrill of the unknown: What perfume will he like best? What makes her angry? But one part I don't miss is the anxiety over "what's next?" Hoping we'll keep enjoying each other. Wondering if we'll last.

We did. This is what it looks like. It's different than how we started out. Faster. Fuller. And granted, sometimes a little flatter.

But with my newfound maturity and your proven competence, I'll bet we can rustle up some time to hold hands today.

Meet me in the shower.

Starshine Roshell is the author of "Wife on the Edge." www.starshineroshell.com

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