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  Santa Cruz Parent Santa Cruz, CA

August 11, 2016
Inspiration
Ami Chen: Everybody Wants to Save the World

Brian Chen: What's the Right Age for Children to Get A Smartphone?
Ask Nicole: Teaching Children to Cope with Anxiety

Christine: The Spread of Disease
Why Your Kids Need to be Bored
Smartphone continued...
Anxiety continued...
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  Inspiration

(A Aug) Dog_labrador-retriever-puppies_onkayak300.jpgA boy and his dogs on a kayak --inspiration to hold onto summer!

Ami Chen offers us inspiration with a few pithy thoughts.  Ami's local. You can meet Ami this Saturday!

Are you a magnet for mosquitoes and any other critter that causes itchy welts?  I've been attacked by mosquitoes, chiggers (yech!), no-see-ums and once by a brown recluse (awful).  So I don't even walk across grass without having sprayed my exposed skin with a lemon/eucalyptus concoction; I refuse to use anything with deet in it.  Still mosquitoes make it through my barriers, mostly my ankles. Read Christine's article about diseases like Zika.

(A Aug) Seymour_SailfinTang.jpgHave you been to Seymour Marine Center on a Friday this summer?  If not, go!  Meet Kayla Kemper who is their artist-in-residence "creating scientific illustrations and animations for exhibits and education programs. Her projects include animations of blue, humpback and gray whales diving and feeding and 3D animations of tide pool life. Come see Kayla at work on Fridays between 10 AM and 2 PM in the exhibit hall. Watch her merge art and illustration into designs and animations that will be used throughout the Center."  Kayla's work is exquisite!

(A Buttons) Button_Weekend.jpgPlease recommend our newsletter to new friends so they won't miss a few tidbits of wisdom from our author contributors, and as always our many fun events! We cannot fit them all into this newsletter.  There are more on the online calendar.

Have a creative weekend with the family! Parmalee

  Ami Chen: Everybody Wants to Save the World

"Everybody Wants to Save the World"

... Many of us have a sense that we'd like to help to "save the world."


I don't have to tell you how much b******* has been perpetrated, and continues to be perpetrated in the name of "saving the world." Not just in terms of religious crusades or terrorist acts and wars, but also, in more subtle ways, within such very beautiful movements as the "Three Principles," within Taoism, within Buddhism, within any Ism, around any teacher or teaching. Arrogance, attachment, blindness, "ideals" over actual human relations, actual kindness, love, consideration, listening and respect.


What did Byron Katie say? "This Savior thing is lethal!"


When we can see through to what part of these "saving-the-world" goals are attached to our own self-worth, our own sense of self, then all that starts to diminish  ... and the real work of saving the world begins.


Saving the world can look like retreating. It can look like doing nothing. It can look like tending to children. It can look like tending to relationships. It can look like checking out for months or days or a minute. Again, it's back to formlessness. Truth or wisdom really has no form, and no prescription. No commandments.

So, we go within, we look within to discover: What is service? What is service in this moment? What does service look like now? ... Just asking and not knowing. Throwing all our old ideas away.  ... We must be open to an impulse that is radically different from anything we have done so far. Perhaps even something we were opposed to in the past.

What now?   --From Ami Chen's new book (in progress), Spiritual Maturity: Dialogues on Freedom and the Formless  

Last Santa Cruz Drop-In Class for Summer  -  "Saturdays for Mind and Spirit" ... August 13th   -  If you've been thinking of attending, now is the time, as this will be the last drop-in class of the summer! Please do join us! This class will take place at Santa Cruz Yoga (in the Kelly's Bakery complex on the Westside) from 1:30-3:30 pm and there is a $15.00 class fee. We love to see new faces! Also, if you are interested in the latest news about this class, as we consider extending into Fall at a new location and time, please join our Meetup Group: Meetup Group for timely updates.

 

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  Brian Chen: What's the Right Age for Children to Get A Smartphone?

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NOT long ago, many parents wondered at what age they should give their child full access to the car keys. Nowadays, parents face a trickier question: At what age should a child own a smartphone? Get Brian's opinion >>>>

  Ask Nicole: Teaching Children to Cope with Anxiety

Is it just me, or is it getting harder to keep up with life? Some days, it feels like I'm on a treadmill that's going too fast, but I can't pause to catch my breath because I'm scared I'll trip and fall. I think I've become so accustomed to this rapid pace that I've stopped noticing the stress it creates. That is, until I wake up at 2 a.m. multiple nights in a row from a recurring nightmare about an important meeting or deadline I've missed. It's like those childhood dreams where you show up at school unprepared for a test or can't find your classroom. When this happens to me, it's a clear sign that my stress and anxiety have taken over. It's time to press the reset button. Get tips on coping with child anxiety>>>>>

 

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  Christine: The Spread of Disease

(A Aug) Mosquito2.jpgCuring disease is one of the most important areas in science. In order to cure a disease, it is important to understand both the mechanics of a disease (such as virus or bacteria) and how the disease is spread. Using this information has allowed us to eliminate smallpox everywhere but a few vials stored in government cold boxes. Polio is on the verge of elimination. 

When a new disease appears, the most important immediate goal is containment. What are the elements in the spread of a disease? Is it transported through the air (flu), bodily fluids (Ebola), water (cholera) or some other mechanism (mosquitoes with Zika). Some diseases are spread through multiple methods. Zika is spread through mosquitoes and bodily fluid. What next? >>>>

Christine Cockey is a local mom and scientist who researches what's happening in the world of science and makes science easier to understand.  Keep up with her latest articles at http://mistralmtn.blogspot.com/

  Why Your Kids Need to be Bored

Article from Stewardship Team

Our kids are growing up in a time where we can download games, stream movies, and talk to people anywhere in the world in the blink of an eye. We've never been so connected or so plugged in to technology! This easy access can be great, but it comes with its own set of challenges-like teaching our kids how to be content when there's not a whole lot going on. That's especially true over summer break.

But here's the deal: You don't have to be on 24-hour entertainment duty! You don't have to fill every waking hour with games, trips and activities. It's okay for your kids to be a little bored and learn how to play on their own. That doesn't make you a bad or lazy parent. And it won't be the end of the world for them, either. Here are a few ideas to help keep you afloat >>>>>

 

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Two-day certification training
August 27 - 28

Great workshop for new teachers and anyone working with groups of children!


Participants will learn how to...

 

  • Create a classroom and a whole school climate that enhances academic learning.
  • Instill valuable social skills and positive behavior through the use of class meetings.
  • Understand the motivation behind students' behavior and identify effective solutions.
  • Develop an equitable classroom community based on mutual respect.

Only $80 admission and $40 materials!

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Evening at the Adobe Open House
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  Evening at the Adobe Open House
Friends of the Santa Cruz State Parks
Date: 08/13/2016 from 6:00pm to 9:00pm
Ages: All
Details: Tour the Adobe Open House kitchen and gardens; enjoy a handmade tortilla!
Special Instructions: Admission is free, donations gratefully accepted. Parking is extremely limited, so carpooling is encouraged.
City: Watsonville Phone: (831) 429-1840 view all details >>
     
Saving the World
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  Saving the World
Date:
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Cabrillo Music Festival
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  Cabrillo Music Festival
Cabrillo Music Festival
Date: Every day (Jul 30-Aug 12)
Details: The HERE and NOW of contemporary music for a world-class orchestra!
City: Santa Cruz County view all details >>
     
Open House Castro Adobe
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State Park Castro Adobe
Date: 08/13/2016 from 11:00am to 3:00pm
Details: Tour the property including the recently restored cocina (kitchen) and the Potter-Church Garden
Special Instructions: Old Adobe Road, off of Larkin Valley Road
City: Watsonville Phone: 831-335-6318 view all details >>
     
Grizzly Bear Festival
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  Grizzly Bear Festival
State Park Rancho del Oso
Date: 09/02/2017 from 12:00pm to 4:00pm
Details: Come to Rancho del Oso for a day of commemorating the once-abundant predator that roamed this "Ranch of the Bear."
Special Instructions: 17 mo north of Santa Cruz
City: Davenport Phone: (831) 427-2288 view all details >>
     
Younger Lagoon Reserve Tour
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  Younger Lagoon Reserve Tour
Seymour Marine Discovery Center (at Long Marine Lab)
Date: The 2nd Su of every month from 2:00pm to 3:30pm
Ages: 10 years of age and older.
Details: Experience the wildlife and natural beauty of Younger Lagoon.
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 459-3800 view all details >>
     
The San Jose Reptile Show
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  The San Jose Reptile Show
San Jose Reptile Show
Date: Every day (Aug 13-Aug 14)
Details: Gearing up for our biggest show since we started doing this 2 years
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Introduction to Positive Discipline
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Positive Discipline Community Resources
Date: 08/27/2016 from 10:00am to 12:00pm
Details: Introduction to Positive Discipline Workshop
Special Instructions: Limited Scholarships Available for Workshop and Childcare (typically $10/child)
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 476-7284 view all details >>
     
New Mommy Musical Meet-UP
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MusicalMe, Inc
Date: The 3rd Tues of every month from 12:30pm to 2:00am
Ages: birth - 12months
Details: Join us every 3rd Tuesday for our "New Mommy Musical Meet-Up"!
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 438-3514 view all details >>
     
Saving the World
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  Saving the World
Date:
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Beer Festival
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  Beer Festival
California Beer Festival
Date: Every day (Aug 11-Aug 13) from 12:30pm to 5:00pm
Details: Craft beers Fri & Sat -for parents of course! Sunday offers family fun with entertainment!
City: Aptos view all details >>
     
Roping Saturday on the Farm
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  Roping Saturday on the Farm
Ag. History Project
Date: 08/13/2016 from 11:00am to 3:00pm
Ages: All
Details: Grab your cowboy hat and put on your boots, because this month we're all about Beef and Broncos!
City: Watsonville Phone: 831-728-5898 view all details >>
     
Retro Nights
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  Retro Nights
Beach Boardwalk
Date: Every Mon and Tues (Jun 19-Aug 22) at 5:00pm
Details: Special weeknight prices for locals!
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
     
  Smartphone continued...

The smartphone, after all, is the key to unfettered access to the internet and the many benefits and dangers that come with it. But unlike driving a car, which is legal in some states starting at the age of 16, there is no legal guideline for a parent to determine when a child may be ready for a smartphone.

The topic is being increasingly debated as children get smartphones at an ever younger age. On average, children are getting their first smartphones around age 10, according to the research firm Influence Central, down from age 12 in 2012. For some children, smartphone ownership starts even sooner - including second graders as young as 7, according to internet safety experts.

"I think that age is going to trend even younger, because parents are getting tired of handing their smartphones to their kids," said Stacy DeBroff, chief executive of Influence Central.

The downward age creep is meeting resistance. James P. Steyer, chief executive of Common Sense Media, a nonprofit organization that reviews content and products for families, has a strict rule for his family: His children get a smartphone only when they start high school - after they have learned restraint and the value of face-to-face communication. Read more...>>>

Brian X. Chen, the lead consumer technology writer for The New York Times, reviews technology products. Before joining The Times in 2011, he worked at Wired, where his reporting on Apple and the wireless industry led to the publication of "Always On," a book about how the smartphone revolution transformed society, business and culture. He also helped create TheWirecutter.com, a popular product recommendation website. He lives in San Francisco.

  Anxiety continued...

This monthly column provides tips for anyone who is helping raise children, based on the world-renowned Triple P - Positive Parenting Program, available to families in Santa Cruz County. If you have a question or idea for a future column, email me at triplep@first5scc.org.

Dear Nicole, My 9-year-old daughter is sweet and kind, does well in school, and doesn't have any major behavior issues. Our problem is that everything makes her anxious and nervous. She gets really worried that something will go wrong, she's forgotten something, or she's going to make a mistake (i.e. fail). She gets so upset that she can't think straight. I tell her everything will be fine, but that seems to make her more upset. I'm worried this will get worse as she gets older and faces more pressure. What should I do?       Daniel

Dear Daniel,

You're on the right track by taking your daughter's emotions seriously. Anxiety is a natural reaction to anything the brain sees as a "threat," including stress at home, school, with friends or in the community. Signs of anxiety can include a faster heartbeat and breathing, sweaty palms, tense muscles, light-headedness or an upset stomach. These physical reactions can make us more alert and prepared to do our best in situations like tests or sports. However, they can also be frightening for some children, especially if they experience frequent or intense anxiety. It can lead children to believe that something is wrong with them or something bad will happen. If left alone, these thoughts and feelings can become overwhelming and interfere with daily life. Here are some tips to help your family:

Acknowledge and empathize with your child's feelings. When children become upset, their "emotional brains" take over, making it hard for them to see the situation and options clearly. Many parents try to reassure their children that everything will be fine, solve the problem or tell them the situation is not really a big problem. While the parents might be right, children are more likely to believe these words once their fears have been acknowledged as real to them. A simple statement such as, "I can see you're really worried," or, "I've felt that way before," can have a calming effect.

Ask questions and listen. Try to find out whether something happened recently that caused her to become anxious or nervous. Then ask a few questions to encourage her to express her thoughts and feelings. Listen and continue to acknowledge her feelings, even if you don't understand or agree with how she views the situation.

Guide your child through problem-solving steps. Help her define the problem or concern, then brainstorm possible ways to handle it. Encourage her to come up with ideas first before offering suggestions. Talk about the pros and cons of each idea, then help her decide which one to try. Have her practice what she'll say or do to build her confidence in her ability to handle the situation. After she tries her solution, talk about how it worked and what she would do the next time something similar happens. Over time, this process will help your daughter learn ways to handle stress and anxiety before it becomes overwhelming.

Stay calm and patient. Helping children deal with anxiety can add more stress to a family. Use coping strategies yourself, like taking deep breaths, saying positive affirmations, or taking a break. It will help you stay calm and patient, while also modeling healthy coping strategies.

FINAL THOUGHTS: Stress and anxiety are unavoidable parts of everyday life, but they don't have to take over our lives. Learning to cope with anxiety in childhood is an important life skill that can be developed with time and practice.

Nicole Young is the mother of two children, ages 12 and 16, who also manages Santa Cruz County's Triple P - Positive Parenting Program. Scientifically proven, Triple P is made available locally by First 5 Santa Cruz County, the Santa Cruz County Health Services Agency (Mental Health Services Act) and the Santa Cruz County Human Services Department. For more information, including classes and one-on-one meetings to help parents handle everyday parenting challenges, visit http://triplep.first5scc.org.

  Bored continued...

Here are a few ideas to help keep you afloat.

1. Schedule quiet time every day

Make time each day for your kids to spend time quietly on their own. Suggest that they read, play with their toys, explore the backyard, draw a picture, or work on a puzzle. When children have enough time to wrestle with their boredom, their imaginations kick into high gear. It might be tough for your little ones at first, but you'll be surprised how quickly they adapt to entertaining themselves. And you might be amazed at what their creativity can produce!

2. Encourage kids to learn a new skill

Summer is a great time for your kids to learn how to do something they've never done before. Maybe you let them sign up for the baseball league. Or encourage them to learn how to play a musical instrument. There are so many wonderful skills your kids can learn-and children soak up information like sponges! You might even help them set up a lemonade stand, which will not only teach them business skills, but also independence and the value of a dollar.

3. Start a reading club

If you can help your kids develop a love for books, you're setting them up for a life of success! Let your kids pick out their books from the library, and create a reward system. Maybe your kids get a ticket for each book they finish and tickets can be redeemed for prizes. If your kids are older, you might have them write a book report or give an oral presentation to earn their tickets. Reading helps their imaginations grow and keeps them in a learning mode during the summer months.

4. Create an "earn extra money" chore list

This is a win-win if there ever was one. If your kids are older, this might be right up their alley. It's a lot of work to keep the house in running order with your kids running around all day long. Give your children a chance to earn some extra money this summer by picking up some extra chores. It will keep them busy, teach them how to handle more responsibility, and give them some extra pocket money. Plus, you get some help around the house.

You don't need to spend hundreds of dollars on vacations this summer. You don't even have to schedule activities and trips to the zoo or the movies every day. Let your children experience a little boredom. It will unlock their imaginations and encourage them to be comfortable with stillness.

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