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  Santa Cruz Parent Santa Cruz County

April 4, 2019


Ask Nicole: Quality Time Matters

On Reading.... Facts and Opinions

The Place to Be on a Rainy Day!

Coming soon...
Fun Events!
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(0 A2 Widgets) Widget_A-ZCamps.jpgThe Summer Camp Guide is coming tomorrow!If you cannot wait, check our A-Z Camps.

Sound suggestions from Nicole lead off in today's newsletter. Over a lifetime the first 18 years with our children is a very short time. Yes, there are other times as we live our lives, while they go out into the world and check back in with new ideas, challenges and experiences, but these early years are precious and set the stage for their paths.

Please share our newsletter with new friends so they won't miss a few tidbits of wisdom from our author contributors, and as always our many fun events!

Have a great weekend with family and friends!  Parmalee

 

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  Ask Nicole: Quality Time Matters

By Nicole M. Young, MSW

(0 A 0 April 2019) MomKid.jpgI recently read that, "According to a [2007] report by the A.C. Nielsen Company, parents spend only 39 minutes per week in meaningful conversation with their children." Yikes. That's less time than it takes me to watch one meaningful episode of This Is Us. Although the report is over 10 years old, I wouldn't be surprised if this statistic were worse now, given the exponential growth in use of smartphones and social media within the last decade. It makes me wonder how many minutes of meaningful conversation I have with my kids each week, and whether conversations about homework, chores, carpool schedules, spending habits, and sports schedules are considered meaningful. If they aren't, then I have a lot of catching up to do.

Dear Nicole, My family is doing fine overall - no major conflicts or problems with my kids' behaviors. But our daily schedule is hectic with school, work, child care, after-school activities, homework, and social activities. Sometimes it seems like we only see each other for a few minutes at the beginning and end of each day, when we're all too rushed or tired to talk to each other. What can I do to stay connected to my kids and not let our busy lives get in the way?   Kira

Dear Kira, Good question! In Triple P, Quality Time and Talking or Communicating with children and teens are the first two parenting strategies that are taught, as they form the foundation of strong family relationships and connections. Quality Time can be brief, as long as it's frequent and focused on things children and teens need or are interested in. This opens the door to Talking and Communicating in both good and difficult times, no matter how busy everyone is.

Here are some tips to try:

(0 A 0 April 2019) MomDaughter.jpg1.      Give kids brief and frequent attention - it adds up over time. Many times, kids only need or want a few minutes of attention before they're off to the next activity or task. When your child or teen wants to ask, tell, or show you something, stop what you're doing, make eye contact, and listen (instead of saying "in a minute"). Giving quality time in this way sends the message that they matter, and you care.

2.      Eat at least one meal together each day. Use this time to reconnect with each other, even if it's only for a short amount of time at the beginning or end of the day. Turn mealtimes into quality time by turning off electronic devices and talking about things each person is thinking, feeling, or doing. This also helps children and teens learn important communication skills, such as taking turns asking questions, talking, and listening.

(0 A 0 April 2019) rockwell_TeachingBikeRiding.jpg3.      Do things together without electronic devices. Turn devices off, or at least silenced and out of sight, for an agreed-upon amount of time. Go on walks, play cards or other games, read books, go shopping, play a sport, cook meals, or just sit quietly together. It doesn't have to be an expensive or all-day activity - when it comes to family time, quality and consistency matter the most.

4.      Turn everyday routines into quality time. Researchers have found that children view everyday routines and hanging out with parents as valuable family time. Imagine that! Talk with your kids on the way to or from child care or school, ask if they need help with homework (even if it's just helping them review what assignments they have), talk or listen to music while you do chores together, or "make a date" to watch a TV show or movie together. These small moments may seem insignificant but can create a lasting impression.

5.      Play together. Make up a game using your imagination, or play a structured game with rules. Either way, kids of all ages will enjoy laughing and doing something as a family that has nothing to do with chores, school work, or family rules. Playful moments often create the best, longest-lasting family memories.

FINAL THOUGHTS: Quality Time and Talking or Communicating with children and teens are two of the most effective parenting strategies. Using them can help build and maintain strong relationships with children and teens of all ages, and they don't have to cost anything except your time and imagination.

This monthly column provides tips for anyone who is helping raise children, based on the world-renowned Triple P - Positive Parenting Program, available to families in Santa Cruz County. If you have a question or idea for a future column, please email Nicole at triplep@first5scc.org.

Nicole Young is the mother of two children, ages 15 and 19, who also manages Santa Cruz County's Triple P - Positive Parenting Program, the world's leading positive parenting program.  To find a Triple P parenting class or practitioner, visit http://triplep.first5scc.org, or contact First 5 Santa Cruz County at 465-2217.

 

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  On Reading.... Facts and Opinions

A Thrilling Adventure Book that Teaches Boys Empathy
Positive masculinity can still mean saving princesses.

February 15, 2019 by Jenny Hoople

"My five-year-old son and I have started reading chapter books. Well, I've been reading them, aloud, while he listens! Regardless, I'm so impressed with the book, The Tale of Despereaux, by Kate DiCamillo.The Tale of Despereaux is a thrilling adventure that entertains boys with its epic quest and hero's journey. My little guy loved it! However, it's also a book that teaches empathy, kindness, and positive masculinity. No character is truly bad or good: they are all complex with our view of them changing, as we move through the story.

My absolute favorite moment in this book-from a parenting perspective-is pictured here. (This is when the narrator pauses to explain what empathy is.)

"It means that when you are being forcibly taken to a dungeon, when you have a large knife pointed at your back, when you are trying to be brave, you are able, still, to think for a moment of the person who is holding that knife."" Read more>>>

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What Teachers Should Know About the Science of Reading (Video and Transcript)

By Liana Loewus on March 12, 2019

Kids aren't being taught to read, says senior education correspondent Emily Hanford of APM Reports, and that's because many teachers haven't learned how reading works. 

Hanford's hard-charging radio documentary, published last fall, has reinflamed decades-old debates about early reading. Her message is clear: The science has shown that systematic, explicit phonics instruction is the necessary foundation for successful reading. But that's not what teachers are learning in their training, and it's not what's happening in schools.

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Why Kids Stop Reading for Fun by Age 9 (and What to Do About It) 

by Michelle Woo

A national reading survey by Scholastic reveals something they're calling the "decline by nine." According to the report, the percentage of kids defined as frequent readers-those who read books for fun five to seven days a week- drops from 57% among 8-year-olds to 35% among 9-year-olds. Between ages eight and nine, the number of kids who say they love reading plummets from 40% to 28%. What happens during this year, and more importantly, what can parents do to keep their young readers reading, willingly? Read more>>>

 

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  The Place to Be on a Rainy Day!
"Imaginarium!"
The Puppetry Institute
This round of creature-dwelling will be full of white rabbits, red queens and tea parties, oh my! Notice a pattern here?
Date: 04/06/2019 from 4:00pm to 6:00pm
Ages: 0-12 Admission Fees: Free

(0 A 0 March) MODBIGpuppet.jpgThe Puppetry Institute is celebrating a amazing 2 years in the Santa Cruz community with its new monthly event, "Imaginarium!" a gathering of Imaginations at the Capitola Mall by Santa Cruz Children's Museum of Discovery! We're inviting Puppets, Puppeteers, Cosplayers, Fur Folk, Steampunks, and Fantasy Artists Designers, and Makers to join us in showing off the diversity and craftsmanship in what we do with our imaginations…

This Months Theme is Wonderland!
For our part we'll be bringing White Rabbit Puppet Craft, Costume Characters, Dr Mecurio's Mythical Marvels will be displaying a Jabberwocky as well as a lovely Jub Jub bird!

There also will be an appearance by the Cheshire Cat who will doing Face Painting (for a small fee) and Alice herself. 

Other Cosplay and Costume characters will be on hand for pictures in our Selfie room!

Imaginarium is a Free Family Friendly event in the Courtyard at the Capitola Mall. We invite everyone to come and celebrate the last 2 years of making the world a cooler place one puppet at a time!

This round of creature-dwelling will be full of white rabbits, red queens and tea parties, oh my! Notice a pattern here?

Oh yeah, almost forgot the best part; it's FREEE!

 Location: MOD, 1855 41st Ave., Capitola Map Phone: (888) 424-8035 •website Capitola 

 

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  Coming soon...

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It is a dense, floriferous species with great foliage substance and multiple golden flowers at all branch tips.

Become a UCSC Arboretum member to ensure access to these exceptional plants, as the number available will be moderate. Read more about this plant here:
http://pza.sanbi.org/leucospermum-praecox

  Fun Events!
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Gateway School K-8, School Day Tour 4/9

 

Mount Madonna PreK-12, Art & Play Day in the Pre & K 4/12

 

Kirby School 6-12, Shadow Days are Mondays

 

Good Shepherd Pre-8, Shadow-A-Ram Visit Days

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Citizen Science
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  Citizen Science
Library Central
Date: The 1st Th of every month from 6:30pm to 8:00pm
Ages: All
Details: A presentation and Q&A with local experts and researchers in the field discussing life science, ecology, geology, genetics, clim
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 427-7717 view all details >>
     
Santa Cruz VegFest
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  Santa Cruz VegFest
Santa Cruz VegFest
Date: 04/06/2019 from 11:00am to 7:00pm
Details: VegFest will feature local restaurants, free food samples, cruelty-free fashion and beauty products, non-profit orgs and kid's a
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
Turning Selling Secondhand Stuff Into A Superpower
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  Turning Selling Secondhand Stuff Into A Superpower
SBDC
Date: 04/09/2019 from 12:00pm to 1:00pm
Details: Got Stuff? All of us could probably use a little less stuff and a little more cash. Learn how you can sell just about anything o
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
STEAM - Make & Explore
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  STEAM - Make & Explore
Santa Cruz Children's Museum of Discovery
Date: Every Fri (Mar 29-May 24) from 2:00pm to 4:00pm
Ages: 0-12
Details: We provide materials to explore creativity, build things, make art and make discoveries.
City: Capitola Phone: (888) 424-8035 view all details >>
     
The Art of Nature
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  The Art of Nature
Santa Cruz Museum of Natural History
Date: The 1st Fri of every month (Apr 5-Jun 2)
Details: Enjoy watching select artists perform their craft in-person during our April and May First Fridays
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 420-6115 view all details >>
     
Children's Planetarium Show
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  Children's Planetarium Show
Hartnell Planetarium
Date: Every Fri (Mar 22-May 17) at 5:30pm
Details: Star programs for children
City: Salinas Phone: (831) 755-6979 view all details >>
     
"Imaginarium!"
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  "Imaginarium!"
The Puppetry Institute
Date: 04/06/2019 from 4:00pm to 6:00pm
Ages: 0-12
Details: This round of creature-dwelling will be full of white rabbits, red queens and tea parties, oh my! Notice a pattern here?
City: Capitola Phone: (888) 424-8035 view all details >>
     
Kid's Tool Workshop
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  Kid's Tool Workshop
Home Depot
Date: The 1st Sa of every month from 9:00am to 12:00pm
Ages: 5-12
Details: Free kids workshops teach do-it-yourself skills and tool safety
City: Capitola or Watsonville view all details >>
     
Sunday Seaside Crafts
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  Sunday Seaside Crafts
Seymour Marine Discovery Center (at Long Marine Lab)
Date: Every Su from 1:00pm to 3:00pm
Ages: Kids and up
Details: Join the hands-on fun at the crafts table every Sunday from 1-3 PM.
City: Santa Cruz Phone: (831) 459-3800 view all details >>
     
Spring Monterey Home and Garden Expo!
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  Spring Monterey Home and Garden Expo!
Monterey Home & Garden Expo
Date: Every day (Apr 6-Apr 7) from 10:00am to 4:00pm
Ages: All
Details: Discover the best of the best of home, kitchen and garden!
Special Instructions: Enter through Gate 3 on Garden Rd.
City: Monterey view all details >>
     
Deep Dive into Conscious Parenting
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  Deep Dive into Conscious Parenting
1440 Multiversity
Date: Every day (Apr 5-Apr 7)
Details: The premise of Conscious Parenting is that our children are born to us to create deep internal transformation within us.
City: Scotts Valley Phone: 844-544-1440 view all details >>
     
Santa Cruz Ballet Theatre In Concert
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  Santa Cruz Ballet Theatre In Concert
Santa Cruz Ballet Theatre
Date: Every day (Apr 6-Apr 7)
Ages: all
Details: We are excited to present the premiere of Mosque Mirage, a new work by Ron Cunningham at the Crocker Theater April 6 and 7 -- Co
City: Aptos Phone: (831) 479-6154 view all details >>
     
Youth Art
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  Youth Art
Palace
Date: Every day (Mar 22-Apr 10) at 6:30pm
Details: Amazing kids art show! Join us please.
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
Vaqueros y Bandidos
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  Vaqueros y Bandidos
State Park Castro Adobe
Date: 04/06/2019 from 11:00am to 3:00pm
Ages: All
Details: Get to know the tools of the cattle trade; listen to cowboy songs and tales of infamous bandits; relax in the beauty of our ga
City: Watsonville Phone: (831) 226-9669 view all details >>
     
31st Annual Santa Cruz Bonsai
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  31st Annual Santa Cruz Bonsai
Santa Cruz Bonsai
Date: Every day (Apr 6-Apr 7) from 10:00am to 5:00pm
Ages: all
Details: Come and see club members' trees on display at the annual bonsai show
City: Santa Cruz view all details >>
     
Quality Time
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  Quality Time
Date:
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