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April 7, 2016
Understanding the Highly Creative Person

10 Things to keep in Mind When Loving a Highly Creative Person

Making Sure Mealtimes are Joyful Times!

Challenges to Our Thinking

Arboretum Spring Plant Sale

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  Understanding the Highly Creative Person

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All my life I've somehow drawn to me highly creative people and there have been times when I have to retreat from exhaustion.  But like a moth to flame, I go back and work with them, be with them, sometimes successfully help them.  I'm certain I'm not alone in this path and so I share with you an article that makes a lot of sense to me --"10 Things to keep in Mind When Loving a Highly Creative Person".  This could be your spouse, work associate, child, friend, parent, et.al.  It helps to understand what's going on inside that special person.

Happy spring gardening time! You ARE going to the Arboretum Spring Garden Sale, right!?

Please recommend our newsletter to new friends so they won't miss a few tidbits of wisdom from our author contributors, and as always our many fun events! We cannot fit them all into this newsletter.  There are more on the online calendar.

Have a great weekend and some fun, foolish moments! Parmalee

 

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  10 Things to keep in Mind When Loving a Highly Creative Person

It has been proven that highly creative people's brains work quite differently than other brains. That special brain wiring that can create such wonderful art, music, and writing can often lead to strain in a relationship, because of those differences. If you've ever loved a highly creative person, you know that it can seem like they live in their own little word at times, and that thought isn't far from the truth. Here are some things to keep in mind when you are in love with a highly creative person:

1. Their Minds Don't Slow Down. The highly creative mind is one that is running at full speed all the time. Although it can be a source of crazy, spontaneous fun - it can also be a burden. Highly creative people rarely keep normal sleep cycles, and are often prone to bouncing from one task to another throughout the day. It can be exhausting to try to keep up.

2. They are Cyclical. The flow of creativity is a cycle, full of highs and lows. Some people may consider this "manic" behavior, but in reality, it is just how the creative process works. Keep this in mind as your partner goes through these natural ebbs and flows. The low periods aren't permanent.

3. They Need Time Alone. Creative minds need air to breathe. Whether it is their own little work space or an escape to somewhere quiet, they need a time and place to be alone with their thoughts. Some people are inclined to think that if nothing is being said that there is something wrong, but with creative people that is not the case. They are just working within their own head.

4. They are Intensely Focused. When a creative person is on task, they are fiercely intense. The change from being scatter-brained to hyper-focused can be difficult to deal with, so just understand that it is how their brains work. Don't get frustrated.

5. Emotions Run Deeper. Creative people feel everything on a deeper level. What doesn't seem like a big deal to you, can be crushing to them. It's that same passion that goes into whatever they create that drives them to love you, so understand that with the good - comes the bad.

6. They Speak in Stories. Creative people often express themselves in experiences, instead of just saying what they want to say. It is a way of sharing themselves that personifies who they are. At times, it can be difficult to figure out what a creative person is saying, so don't be afraid to read between the lines.

7. They Battle with Themselves. Being creative can be a serious internal struggle. Motivation, enthusiasm, direction, and drive can all be issues for creative people. Some days it is hard for them just to get out of bed, and other days you can't get them to slow down. Be patient in the lulls, because there is usually a burst of activity right around the corner.

8. Intuition is Important. Creative people, because of their intense emotional tendencies, tend to rely on intuition over logic. They go with their gut. Some people consider this to be more on the "impulsive" end of the spectrum. The creative mind doesn't rely on logic to make a decision, it relies on experience and passion.

9. They Struggle with Confidence. When people create, especially for a living, they are always struggling with acceptance. That is art. They have to wear their hearts on their sleeves, and so they always question whether or not what they are producing is good enough. Being supportive is the key to loving a creative person.

10. Growing Up is Hard to Do. Creative people are almost always children at heart. That care-free nature can seem immature and impetuous - but it is all part of the deal. Understand that the aspects of their creative brains that you love are the same ones that make them somewhat irresponsible when it comes to being an adult.

Source: Intelligence.com

 

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  Making Sure Mealtimes are Joyful Times!

by Colleen Murphy

Mealtimes offer great opportunities for families to come together for conversation and connection. One study, Project EAT (Eating Among Teens), found that kids who sit down to family meals regularly, tend to do well in school, avoid risky behaviors, eat more healthfully, and have a lower risk of developing eating disorders. Family meals can provide parents an opportunity to consistently model good eating habits, and to show kids what balanced meals look like. Parents are also more likely to spot potential eating problems.     

However, sometimes fights over food, power struggles, and threats can disrupt the ideal picture of a nice, shared meal.

Guidelines for Successful and Healthy Meal Times

Get in the meal habit:  The meal doesn't have to be fancy. Just pick a time, remove distractions (TV, toys, electronics), place food on the table and eat together at least once a day.

Come to the table hungry: Snacking too close to meal times sabotages any hope children will eat a meal. Limit free access to food and drinks (except water) between meals; offer healthy snacks spaced out between meals. Eliminate sugary foods, if possible, which can alter the body's natural craving for healthy foods.

Set appropriate expectations for each age level: Toddlers might be able to sit for 5-10 minutes. Preschoolers might sit for a little longer. School age children might sit until the end of the meal. Forcing children to sit beyond their capabilities creates stressful meals.

Babies and toddlers will play with food, spill their milk and drop food on the floor. This is appropriate behavior, not misbehavior. When the food is played with more than it is eaten, your toddler is done with the meal. Teach your children to help you clean up the mess.

Avoid the short order cook role: Feed your family the food that is placed on the table. Don't offer a substitute main dish if your child rejects it. Respond to their, "I don't want to eat it," with a non-attached, "That's fine. Let me know if you change your mind. But this is what we are eating tonight."

Some families do let older children fix a sandwich or quesadilla if they don't like the meal. This is better than fixing special meals for each child.

Let go of trying to please every eater at every meal: Provide each eater at least one or two items they generally enjoy. If your child chooses not to eat one thing, don't worry. Let them choose from the various healthy food choices you've placed upon their plate.

Don't force children to eat everything on their plate: This trains children to over eat and can create life-long obesity issues. It also forces children to eat foods they may not care for which invites power struggles and rebellion. Teach children to take small servings at first, letting them know they can have seconds later.

Don't spoon feed your child: Your job is to provide the food on the plate; it's each eater's job to get it into their mouths.

Ellyn Satter's Division of Responsibilities

Parents' role: Provide the meal structure Children's role: To make their own choices
Determine foods to be served Choose what they will eat
Set meal and snack times Decide how much they will eat
Remove distraction during meals
Decide if they eat at all
Make meals pleasant
 
Model good eating habits and manners  

Positive Discipline Community Resources  831.476.7284 x.107,   www.pdcrsantacruz.org, pdcrsantacruz@gmail.com

Resources: Child of Mine, Ellyn Satter. Positive Discipline A-Z, Nelsen, Lott, Glenn. "Nutrition Watch." Eating Well, J. Hendley.   Adapted by: Colleen Murphy

 

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  Challenges to Our Thinking

Ban Homework by Scott Timberg
It doesn't help little kids learn-and it ruins their love of school...>>>>

The Wrong Way to Teach Math by Andrew Hacker
Think about numbers as a language; we need to learn to be fluent in it...>>>>

Should College Be Free? The cost of higher education is very much on the minds of many voters these days, and it's an issue among politicians from both sides of the aisle...>>>>

 

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  Arboretum Spring Plant Sale

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Looking for drought-tolerant plants? Come to the Arboretum's Spring Plant Sale!
Date: 04/09/2016 from 9:00am to 4:00pm
Admission Fees: Free

Looking for drought-tolerant plants? Come to the Arboretum's Spring Plant Sale!

Mark your calendar! - Saturday, April 9, Members only 10am-Noon, Public Noon-4 pm 

In partnership with the California Native Plant Society (CNPS), the Arboretum's Spring 2016 Plant Sale will offer quality, regionally-friendly plants from both groups at great prices. The Eucalyptus Grove is located on High Street at the intersection with Western Drive. 

Not a member of the Arboretum or CNPS and want to get in early?  Join the Friends of the Arboretum on our website. Memberships for both organizations will be available at the gate on the day of the sale 

Knowledgeable Arboretum staff will be on hand to assist customers with their plant selections.

A popular new addition introduced last fall was "Valet Wheelbarrow Service" to assist shoppers in transporting their purchased plants to the parking area. 

This year the sale offers colorful, water-wise succulents, small trees, and plentiful other plants from Australia, New Zealand, South Africa, and California. This year, many of the featured plants attract birds, particularly hummingbirds, and most of these can't be found at local nurseries or elsewhere in the state. Gardening experts are always available to answer questions about the plants and offer advice to ensure they thrive. Food and beverages can be purchased as well. 

You will find plenty of California natives and unique varieties found no other place. Arboretum experts will be on hand to help you find plants right for your gardens that will save water, attract wildlife and look beautiful in your garden. If you are considering replacing a lawn with an attractive low maintenance/low water usage landscape, come to the sale for plant suggestions and growing advice. 

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View/download a list of plants for sale at this year's spring plant sale (pdf).

Location: Eucalyptus Grove, 1156 High St, Santa Cruz Map
Phone: 831.427.2998 •website Santa Cruz West Side

 

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